Summary:

Many people put little analytical thought into how they speak. Typically, the process of choosing the correct words takes precedence in your mind, however the tonality and pacing of speech can have just as much importance in communicating. A man with a strong, attractive and masculine voice will be perceived by others as a leader.

Body:

First of all, you must remove filler words. Words or phrases such as “uh, um, er, ah, like, okay, right, you know, actually, and basically,” have absolutely no place in a man’s vocabulary. These words never present confidence, and make you appear to be scrambling to think of the next thing to say.

Ideally, you want others to think that you always know exactly what to say. Therefore, a much more effective vocal strategy is to simply replace filler words with short pauses. A more preferable strategy would be to refrain from speaking until you can clearly and simply articulate your thoughts. Do not be afraid to pause before speaking, in fact a short pause before speaking presents a thoughtful and coherent response.

Second, focus on improving your enunciation. The simplest ways to improve enunciation of words involves opening your mouth slightly wider when you speak, and speaking more slowly. The best way to get an objective sense of your own enunciation is to record yourself speaking in different tones, and analyze which sounds better to you. Many people do not enjoy listening to their own voice, because it sounds vastly different from how we imagine our voices should sound. However this fear will only hold you back from utilizing your voice to its fullest potential.

Most importantly, focus on the tonality of your voice. Studies have proven that increased testosterone decreases the pitch of men’s voices compared to those of women, therefore deeper voices naturally seem more masculine. However this does not mean you should artificially lower your voice. The best way to create a genuine lowering in voice tone is to focus on breathing and speaking from your diaphragm. A simple way to intentionally breathe from the diaphragm involves keeping your shoulders still while you breath. If your shoulders noticeably rise as you breathe, you are likely breathing from your chest.

Finally, an important strategy to employ is to end your sentences on a downward inflection. Upward inflections at the end of a sentence subconsciously imply a question, therefore a downward inflection makes a sentence feel more firm, and certain.

Lessons Learned:

Your voice is an important tool in interacting with others, and mastering your voice will drastically improve your Game.

Don’t be afraid to record your voice and play it back to yourself. This is often the best way to objectively understand how your voice naturally sounds.

Deeper voices are perceived as more masculine. Focus on speaking from the diaphragm, and end your sentences with a downward inflection.

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