NAWALT. Yeah, that's right. I said it. However....Bear with me.

AWALT.

WTF do I mean?

Let's consider Junior and Juniorette. Two children being raised by a good man.

Dad's Message to Juniorette:

Dear Daughter,

As you grow and develop, boys are going to become more interested in you. You are going to start having powerful feelings that seem odd, scary, and exciting all at the same time. Just about everyone goes through some version of this.

We have already talked about the birds and the bees, so now its time for the next level conversation.

Some boys, let's say 10% of them, are dangerous. They have not been taught to control their sexual and romantic urges. Or they were raised by aggressive fathers who acted like predatory animals around women. Or they were raised by single mothers who allowed those bad men in their lives. However they learned this, they did.

And because of this, you must be on your guard. You have to assume that ALL MEN are like that, even though it is only 10%. So:

• Never go anywhere alone with a boy unless you are ready, willing, and able to have sex (and don't forget what your mom and me explained about STD, pregnancy etc)
• Never go anywhere alone with strange men, like to a party, unless you have a designated driver or another sober friend to keep an eye out for you.
• Never do drugs with men around. In fact, never do drugs
• Never leave your drink unattended in a bar - or anywhere for that matter.
• Be situationally aware. Keep an eye out as you go for a walk or a run in the park. Keep an eye out for strange acting/looking characters.
• Trust your judgment. Those bad feelings in your gut? LISTEN to them and GTFO of there ASAP.
• Etc.

I love you and I know you will do well with this advice. But above all, please remember this: NOT all men are like that. But you have to ASSUME they are because of the 10%. Good luck out there.

Love,

Dad

Dad's Typical Message to Junior:

Dear Son,

Good luck out there buddy. Buckle up, don't drive drunk, and be sure to wear a condom if you have sex. And remember - respect women. No means no.

Have fun!

Love,

Dad

I know some of you will chime in with corrections to the above. it is not literal, so have at it. It is an incomplete dumbed down version of the exact messages we send to our boys and girls in the world.

And it is problematic to say the least.

Here is my proposed message to Junior:

Dad's REVISED Message to Junior:

Dear Son,

As you grow and develop, girls are going to become more interested in you. You are going to start having powerful feelings that seem odd, scary, and exciting all at the same time. Just about everyone goes through some version of this.

We have already talked about the birds and the bees, so now its time for the next level conversation.

Some girls, let's say 80% of them, are dangerous to you. They have not been taught to control their hypergamous, predatory female urges. Or they were raised by aggressive mother who acted like predatory animals around men. Or they were raised by mothers who allowed weak men in their lives. However they learned this, they did.

And because of this, you must be on your guard. You have to assume that ALL WOMEN are like that, even though it is only 80%. So:

• Never go anywhere alone with a woman unless you are ready, willing, and able to handle the consequences of her getting pregnant and owning you for the rest of your life (not it doesn't end when you stop paying child support. And don't forget what your mom and me explained about STD's etc.)
• Never go anywhere alone with strange woman, like to a party, unless you have a designated driver or another sober friend to keep an eye out for you.
• Never do drugs with women around. They can and will film you and bring that shit up 30 years from now if you become successful. In fact, never do drugs
• Never leave your drunk friends unattended in a bar - or anywhere for that matter.
• Be situationally aware. Keep an eye out for women who are drunk and dancing around like an sexually frustrated chimpanzee. Keep an eye out for strange acting/looking characters in general.
• Trust your judgment. Those bad feelings in your gut? LISTEN to them and GTFO of there ASAP.
• Etc.

I love you and I know you will do well with this advice. But above all, please remember this: NOT all women are like that. But you have to ASSUME they are because of the 80% who ARE like that. Good luck out there.

Love,

Dad

Have a good day men.

Be safe out there.