Women are social creatures. Herd animals, really. Without attention and validation, they die (or at least become really messed up in the head). To a woman, if you don’t have an active social life, you pretty much don’t exist. And for a woman, if something doesn’t have an immediate social benefit or effect, she might as well not bother doing it. She thinks it’s a waste of time. Everything she does or refrains from doing is based on the social benefit or detriment to her – what the herd will think and how it will react.

This is why one of the most important traits a man can possess when it comes to attracting women, second only to being hot, is social aptitude. If you don’t have a social life, you’re not a real person to her. It doesn’t matter how hard you work, how much money you make, how much nice stuff you do for her, or even how much of an aloof asshole you pretend to be hoping to trick her into thinking you’re awesome. If you are not socially connected, you don’t exist. Just breathing the same air as you costs her points with the herd unless she can spin things properly.

If you’re not socially connected, then your girlfriend (or just the girl you’re pining after) is your primary social outlet. You’re not a real person to her because in her world, you’re an extension of her. She’s the real person with the real social life, while you are an accessory in her life. She will use you as a tool to accomplish tasks (e.g., help her move, pick her up from her “abusive ex’s” house for the third time this week). She will use you to garner attention from more valuable people (e.g., cuddle with you in front of hot guys to make them jealous then complain to her girlfriends about how you’re creepy and can’t take a hint). Because you are an accessory, not a real person, she will make you useful to her, sometimes using you up, casting you aside, or wrecking your life in the process. What happens to you doesn’t matter to her, because you’re not human.

Essentially, like children, women lack object permanence. You are socially vacant, therefore you have no effect on her life. You’re not there. When she’s not staring at you, you do not exist. You begin existing again when she picks up her phone to text you. And, as with children, the fact that you are an actual human – every bit as complete and complex as she is – never crosses her mind. You are simply a stimulus that exists in her life.

Fucking a man like that would be like fucking her poodle or her favorite pair of shoes. She doesn’t see you as a person. She sees you as an accessory. Sex hasn’t crossed her mind, because the fact that you’re an actual human being hasn’t even occurred to her. You are mostly invisible – part of the background in her life.

However, if you are socially apt, then you have an effect on others. People know you, like you, want to help you out, want to fuck you. You go on existing, even when a woman stops paying attention to you. When you walk into a room and people know you, or when you simply strike up a conversation with people who aren’t her and it becomes clear that your attention has value to others, you become real.

In fact, if you’re busy mingling about a crowded venue, while a girl follows at your heels, she becomes your accessory. The difference here is that when the situation is reversed, she loves being an accessory to a successful, socially apt man. She gains status, as a woman, by being attached to a winner. She hopes the whole world sees her, following at the heels of a great man.

The more you become a socially apt winner, the more pleasant and more effective of an accessory she will become for you. Well-developed social aptitude is critical for having your own life, independent from her – turning her into an accessory in your great life. Without it, she’s the owner, and you’re merely an object in her purse.

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