@joyboy

Hey man, I'm going to need you to pop a chill pill, shut the fuck up and take a long, hard, serious look at what the average man is today.

Look at how they talk, act, dress, physically look, take a mental inventory and once you start compiling the average, if half of what you said above is true, you'll be well beyond you average man.

Don’t say “lift and dress well” I’m already lean with a good amount of muscle mass and dress fashionably, so I take care of my appearance and health. Don’t say “get your money up” I’m working two jobs + doing a second degree + a side hustle so I’m already working on that too. I need some legit advice or materials to read or something that will fix my retarded brain

None of that shit gives me confidence, having lived an exciting life does. Join a martial arts, become a fantastic guitarist, go on backpacking trip, just up and move to another location and start over.

I don't know what ruffles your feathers but find something in life to chase that isn't for materialistic gains or pussy but just the pleasure of developing a skill.

Confidence in my mind comes from action.

@notdoingcoke

LTR making jokes about texting other guys, whats the least nuclear course of action

Long story short this girl I been dating for a few years is cool. submissive, buys me stuff, cooks, blah blah- she has her own issues that reveal she's pretty broken anyway (daddy issues, not used to "good men" etc) so I just play the relationship day by day. She is madly in love with me, I dont care about having her forever or marrying her.Any time she says she loves me I just say "I know". I only tell her I love her when we fuck every now and then and she loves it. im pretty reserved emotionally

We were chilling outside and she stars discussing getting a new apartment. we're both smoking some weed and the vibe is cool. Then she says "I was about to say something but I didnt want you to get mad". I tell her spit it out and she says "I was gonna say 'I'll be texting you AND other guys when I get my new apartment'". Now upon hearing this, I didnt say anything or make a face, I really was just like "thats how it be". But in my head im utterly confused. What causes women to say these retarded ass statements? its more funny than upsetting to me, cause its like she's digging her own grave. Anyway, she goes on to say she just likes to get a rise out of me, cause im so "nonchalant" but I've been cheated on before and have heard enough "jokes" and given enough benefit of the doubt with women. So as soon as I heard that I mentally checked out and started thinking bout spinning plates again. I already didnt want a relationship nor do I put much stock in them. I dont appreciate jokes like that coming from women cause at the end of the day, these hoes be for real. Saying that under the guise of trying to get a rise out of me is retarded but I dont expect her to be logical. it'll just get her tossed to the side. Anyways she's just started a new big girl job working in a hospital (I know) so I dont feel like playing it safe and giving her that benefit of the doubt. rather be done with it all

Let me know what yall think. I've already started to open my options some more. Im beginning to think this chick is really just too far gone, as smart as she is. I dont care to be tested in that way, especially not after being with her for 3 years. My solution is to just keep fucking, getting free food, blah blah. she's starting to gain weight anyway (still looks good but all her family is fat so I dee that in her future) so it may be time to sell low. Im going to branch out my options and keep raking in the benefits, but I'd like some more input just to further solidify my mind with good information

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With what little info you've shared, this strikes me as possibly being a high fired shit test more than anything else. Thing is, you pot heads have more important things to concern yourselves with than relationships. You should take some time to sort out whatever is going on in your life that triggers you to use marijuana. If you're also consuming alcohol, deal with that as well. Run a search, ask around, there are plenty of guys working their way through their substance abuse problems, so there shouldn't be any shortage of organization or books they share personal experience with should such a journey interest you.

@MiracleAligner

She wants commitment after a year

I've explained in my previous post about this complicated relationship. Basically i was honest and told her im not in a position right now to have a serious commitment, and she said she didnt want that from me and we're just gonna be friends and keep seeing eachother. Just two days later she calls crying and saying im horrible for stringing her along for a year and making me feel guilty and shit. Than soon later she switched it again and said she doesnt want anything serious, but now that ive said it (that i dont want anything serious), it made her feel used and she needs to hear it from me that im serious with her. I honestly dont even know what she wants right now

my answer / it feels like its time to call it. I want a casual relationship right now but she needs reassurance about the future, so it looks like theres no way to continue

www.youtube.com/watch?v=BXqPNlng6uI