@iautrptgl

Is it still possible for an overweight guy to be successful with women?

In recent years I felt out of the red pill/manosphere but have recently been reignited and have decided to recommit. The issue is in recent years I have gained a fair amount of weight, I do gym consistently and have a decent amount of muscle, but I’d say I have a layer of blubber around my stomach/chest (I am 5’10, 220lbs and around 25% bf).

This extra weight has definitely affected my confidence when it comes to approaching, so I’m interested to see what the community thinks regarding male weight. I think it will essentially come down to a question of how strong the fat man’s (me) frame is, if he is confident enough and practice the correct techniques he should still be successful. However there is also the truth that fat is not as attractive as ripped, and would be interested to see how the community views it

After you put together a diet and exercise plan to help you shed those unwanted pounds, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Jocbro

What causes women to ghost a "High value male"?

For context — I’m 6'2, fit, make close to seven figures, drive a supercar, own my house, and I’m often told I'm handsome (can verify all of this if it sounds like BS). I get that all of that’s superficial, but it’s what women typically say they want in an “ideal man.”

Still, I’ve got dozens of texts (unprovoked) from girls saying they had an amazing date and wanted to see me again… only to ghost or cancel right after making plans.

It’s not like I’m retarded socially or talk politics — first dates are light, fun, and easy.

I’ve even had one girl (later found out she was bipolar) confirm second date, then disappear the next day.

I don’t get it. Intimidation seems too easy an answer — and I doubt most of these women are meeting guys who check more boxes.

That thinking is entirely dependent on the assumption modern women are working down the same exact checklist you are. Unfortunately, while females are generally understood to make terrible decisions, with what you've said over the years it might be time for you to actually consider that they maybe seeking radically different criteria than yourself.

While you may possess traits many men may otherwise see as good, it doesn't necessarily mean modern females in our spiritually demoralized-spiritually lobotomized society will see the man you are as embodying the ideals they've been indoctrinated to seek. Being malleable, or easy to manipulate, is something modern women are encouraged to seek in all men, whether high value or not, and that's one of many traits you seem to lack.

Unfortunately, the traits seen as ideal for modern women to seek in men are some red pill men are actively discouraged from developing, if not abandoning should they realize they have them. This is why so many commenters in RP aware circles encourage hedonism, it distracts you from engaging in any critical analysis necessary to understand the evil of clown world and who rules it. A man who seeks the truth is the most dangerous in a society that openly peddles lies to obscure the truth from sight. Eventually, you will understand this, and come to see gatekeepers as obstacles to be hurdled, or destroyed, if not actively ignored as they are nothing more than the half-witted agents of the diabolical.

@folamour22

Copenhagen vs Munich vs Vienna vs Dublin vs London

Which do you reckon would be the best dating life long term, to ideally also find a wife? This is considering if you had to choose between each of these cities to relocate to for better career options as a EU passport holder. I know neither are the best for dating necessarily, but I have to do it for the money career wise to level myself up financially, and since they all have pretty much similar high-level offers, the choice boils down to life outside of work. Right now, I live in a Mediterranean country in Europe but find the career prospects to be quite low and I narrowed it down to these cities in terms of job opportunity. But I also want to balance it out in terms of life outside of work because not everything is about money. Any experiences in these cities from your side?

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@MobusBobus Don't fucking do it.

we just happen to work in the same building/space

You said "in my office".

You literally have women from another company in your office?

Look, don't do it. Even if you really are just sharing an office, it's going to be very awkward when it ends. And you always have to plan for when it ends.

Even if you don't value your job - the fact that you share an office and she has to regularly see you motivates her to run revenge on you after the relationship ends, in order to get rid of you, because of the awkwardness.

This is how women operate. When the relationship ends, if you are still around there is a 90% chance she will try to get rid of you or destroy you, because at that point you are an emotional threat to her.

She is more likely to make false claims against you if she has a reason or benefit from doing so.

@MobusBobus

Here are two approaches:

1. Next time you find one going out of her way to come around, say something like “Did you just check me out?” and smile. If she admits it or agrees in any way, then tell her “Buy me a drink for my birthday”. Her: “When’s your birthday?” You: “Take me out and I’ll tell you. Here’s my number.”

If she avoids it or says “No I wasn’t checking you out” then respond with. “Ok, maybe it’s just me then” and walk away. Wait for her to try to process that. If she at any time asks you “what did you mean by that?” Tell her “Take me out for a birthday drink and I’ll tell you.” See above for the rest.

1. Ask your target for advice. Next time you see her, tell her you need some advice. Ask her when she has some time. Go to the local lunch place or coffee and invite her. Then make up some bs about dating older women in your 20’s. Something like “I am not sure how old you are, so I intend no disrespect here, but you look like you know what you want in life. I’m interested in an older woman and i want to get close to her, like real close, like sexual addiction close. What’s my best first move”. Then take it from there.

Good luck. let me know how it goes.

AND, as @typo-MAGAshiv said Do NOT shit where you eat. Be very careful.