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It's easier for me to approach men than women.
I've always been fairly confident and have always spoke to pretty much everyone around me. Im popular at my gym and talk to pretty much anyone. I have no problem going up to guys and making friends with them easily.
For some reason, it's way way harder for me to approach women with the same energy. My brain and social skills kind of just turn off when it's a girl.
This is so weird because I have absolutely no problem going up to random guys and starting a convosation.
Ive started cold approaching, which has made me realise I have this problem.
How do I fix this/get out of this weird mindset that I have.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go
By considering that there's absolutely nothing wrong in realizing that the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
Interacting with other males, either online or in-person, will usually lead to more benign outcomes with no stress. You ask a few questions, you get a few replies, maybe a suggestion of a book to read and you continue on with your life.
However, with modern females this isn't possible as most are educated to see males as enemies at worst and competition at best. Whether that's good or bad, you'll have to decide for yourself.
Read MoreI swear it's like a defense mechanism to protect their ego.
That, and in their female hindbrain they believe that if they assert their status above yours, it'll somehow entitle them to even better men, or at the very least a better spot in the chick pecking order
@Saltycroc Practice.
With guys you have outcome independence. You're not expecting it to go anywhere or worried about a negative reaction. Hence, it's easy.
With girls you are dependent on an outcome. You want them to like you or avoid a negative reaction. You're invested in the interaction and that feeds through in your behavior.
Keep doing it, you'll get used to it.
Lot easier if you have plates as well because then you dgaf.
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It's easier for me to approach men than women.
I've always been fairly confident and have always spoke to pretty much everyone around me. Im popular at my gym and talk to pretty much anyone. I have no problem going up to guys and making friends with them easily.
For some reason, it's way way harder for me to approach women with the same energy. My brain and social skills kind of just turn off when it's a girl.
This is so weird because I have absolutely no problem going up to random guys and starting a convosation.
Ive started cold approaching, which has made me realise I have this problem.
How do I fix this/get out of this weird mindset that I have.
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Looking for experienced mindset advice for rp mindset in general
24yo, had some bad lows, and good highs, looking for more stability without sacrificing opportunities
I'm looking for personal opinions and life advice, stories would help a lot too :)
- Q. Is confidence more hormonal or a mindset? Personal answer: seems like when I'm on top of my sleep, take ashwagandha, make an effort to meditate I don't even have to put up an act to be successful. But then ensuring I upkeep on all of those aforementioned things, I forget to actually live and dgaf too much, which increases focus but sacrifices my social life as I'm "too responsible". I'm really athletic, I've benched 3 plates at 82kg, so my hormones are probably good but my diet is pretty lame and it feels like I'm in constant high/low mood cycles.
- Q. Better to move to a big town where you seemingly keep running into major life events or live a boring life in the suburbs? I guess I'm at the age where I'm trying to still let loose but don't want to destabilize future too much. I've done well for myself and my career could take off, but it seems like I'll have to sacrifice a big portion of my personality for it. I miss college where I could just exist, go out the door and literally make friends. In the suburbs it takes a draining level of effort to maintain a diminished semblance of a social life.
Unfortunately getting better in my career seems to involve becoming more antisocial as its a pretty nerdy thing and requires a lot of time spent in that mindset to be good at it
www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go
Hit up Richard Cooper of "Entrepreneurs In Cars".
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I’m 27, male AND a virgin - so I’m not getting younger. How did this happen? That’s for me to know and for everyone else not to.
For literally FOUR YEARS I’ve been trying to date the normal way. I never made it to the bedroom even once because even at 23, women bailed when they learnt I was still a virgin. My reputation spread across town and now I’m basically known as “the loser virgin guy who tries his luck with all the women.” Needless to say, I’ve been mocked every week for these four years. There’s no coming back from that here, so I’m forced to move.
I’d rather not have another four years like this in my new state. So I’m thinking of hiring escorts in some place where it is legal. How can I do it safely without worrying too much about diseases? I’m mostly worried about hepatitis and all the ones that can bypass condoms.
I’ve had some CUTE women into me until they learned I was a virgin, so I know now I have to take extreme measures. I’m not dead yet, so I still have time to start a family and all that. I’m just taking a shortcut to get up to speed. I ask again, HOW TO AVOID STD’S?
Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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Brutal reality check, how can i man the fuck up?
Yesterday i was talking to this girl who liked me, we even talked sexual stuff, everything was going pretty well, i was interesting(cool hobbies), agreed and amplified, i sent her my body pic with 12% bodyfat(visible 6 packs) and decent muscles, she found it to be really hot, she's an unemployed skinny fat chick who's never set a foot in the gym(im sure even her dms are full with dudes). Then she asked my height and i told 5'10 (actually 5'8) and it was over, she said she wont sleep with anyone under 6' as her previous bf was 6' skinny dude, brutal slap straight in the face.
i know i wont ever reach the level of success a genetic specimen can reach without putting in any effort, but my effort I've put on for years on end to yield me failures all my life whenever I've tried puts me in depression from time to time, like id go to the gym consistently for 6 months and then it hits and i go into depression for 2 months completely starving myself and loosing all my gains .
I've tried everything guys from cold approaching (40+) to dating apps( got 2 matches in a month) to tried being friends with chicks irl (warm approach), and nothing has ever worked in my entire like till now. a KV no matter of how much i try and improve based on the field approaches i do, don't lead to any tangible results
for context I'm a bald(was Norwood 3 so i shaved it all) 20yo man who needs to man the fuck up but don't know how to do so.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtwiAkUj5Go
Study the book and you'll do better next time around, short stuff. Besides, nothing good ever came of men whose self-confidence was dependent on female validation. Self-confidence is a result of pursuing and overcoming the various challenges of life. During which time, you come to understand what interests, drives, and motivates you. To that end, I suggest that you get yourself two sheets of paper, a pen, and sit down at a table.
On the first sheet write down a list of things that you've been putting off on the back burner due to work, schooling, or just life in general. It doesn't matter how silly, or stupid the task or idea might be, just write it down. When you're done, take the second sheet of paper, and re-write the items from the first list starting with what you believe to be the simplest, easiest task, to the most complicated.
When you're done with the second list, get to work. The challenge once you've got the list done won't be simply accomplishing them, but not allowing yourself to be de-spirited whenever you encounter difficulty, or failure. To not let yourself be defeated. You'll spend the time to troubleshoot and diagnose the problem, then start over. If you need help, ask. There's no shortage of #books we can recommend that may help you achieve your goal.
Best of luck to you.
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