@Typo-MAGAshiv @qzone I just remembered one piece of cool relationship game advice a few years ago: When in the starting stages of a relationship where she wants you to "share your feelings", come up with a story that's vulnerable but not really yours. I'm reminded of "The Commode Story" from Reservoir Dogs: www.youtube.com/watch?v=SP3BNTi35XI

Pink needed to tell a story to win camaraderie but, as an undercover cop, it couldn't be his. One idea is to repeat a story you heard from a dear friend but isn't too bad or icky, perhaps such as getting beaten up in High School because you had a Paw Patrol lunchbox and your parents didn't have anything else to give you at the time and how that caused you to be shy for a year or so.

Then when she pulls this out to attack you later during an argument: "Are you still crying about your Paw Patrol lunchbox, crybaby?!?!" Reverse Uno it and say you repeated the story from a friend because you KNOW she'd pull something like this.

Thoughts on “sexual harassment” and “reasonable woman/man” standards.

I had a father-daughter day today at the (overpriced) cat cafe today. So we went in with another family who looks like an urban biker gang: The women all tattooed but, in particular, a young woman with a septum piercing. I chatted with the biker-gang-like dad and mom, but otherwise didn’t interact with the septum pierced daughter because she simply made me feel uncomfortable. The feeling, like with most American women, was mutual (they rarely initiate contact with strange men).

I got to thinking how septum piercings on women make me feel uncomfortable. Someone has mutilated themselves and I don’t want to be around them, like someone with slashed wrists. If women can feel uncomfortable because of a man who makes fart jokes, what about men who feel uncomfortable around such women? Biker-dad was ok because this was NORMAL for men, tattooed are a masculine thing, but face piercings, even for men, are extreme but on women, freak show.

As a man, of course, I’m expected to just deal-with-it/suck-it-up, which is what I did. No biggie. I am amused, though, at Y2K how many Spießig women were so uptight about me simply for being a normal man and acted like I had somehow offended them with my existence. One even got offended when I simply was at a vendor event a decade later at a bar and didn’t even interact with her. I chucked: They’re so vulnerable yet so arrogant.

I asked my 9 year old daughter in the car afterwards about it: “They’re weird” she said, or something like that. I was focused on driving us home safely.

@Typo-MAGAshiv

I mean, he says within the rule and its blog post that you only move in together if you're planning to marry her soon (6 months). So there goes that objection.

If you haven't lived with her for at least 18-24 months, you don't know enough about her (or your own live-together-dynamics with her) to be "planning to marry her". Also, 6 months from planning that to actually going through with it isn't enough time to vet the situation properly. Those 6 months are like another honeymoon phase, and not something to base a huge decision on.

Really, my only objection to it is that getting married without our nations doing a serious overhaul of the laws governing marriage is a terrible idea, and marriage/LTR shouldn't be a man's goal anyway (religious needs aside for now).

Not disagreeing with you on that one.

True, but that's like saying "this fatal disease that causes a lot of pain really isn't that bad compared to this other fatal disease that's a lot worse".

If we're going to do analogies, then breaking up with a live-in girlfriend is more like stubbing one's toe. I've been through it a few times. Sucks there and then, but hardly a major life event in retrospect.

Oh, is that all? It's a good thing anyone can afford that quite easily and it won't cause any complications in trying to find a new place to live or anything!

A guy who doesn't have a war chest large enough to pay for a couple of months' rent is doing something wrong with his life beyond just women.

@Mate1212

I was going to reply to this

IMO you shouldn't have a problem with her getting pregnant.

But then I saw this:

how should they track me down? If it's my kid, I'm cool with playing. It's still my kid. But in the worst case scenario, I will use 100% of my free will and disappear. Not even the state will find me.

I believe you are not being realistic. In a "dude, slap your face" manner.

Take this advice: you are not ready to have a kid, and if you do in the near future it will probably destroy your life, as well as your kid's.

The capacity and willingness to "walk away" may have a lot to do with fucking bitches, but it has nothing to do with raising kids.

Make sure you don't knock someone up as you gain experience in life. Consider having a kid on purpose only after you 're 35.