@MrSupreme

How to deal with the oblivious

Im almost 37.I started working as an english teacher about a month ago.There's a few pretty teachers around, most are under 25 and some are my type so I'm very attracted. It's just physical because we don't talk much 1on1. My friends are about that age and we talk all the time,both girls and boys.

Since my job comes first, I decided to test the waters, I'm not looking my best but I am the best I've been in 4-5 years.So plausible deniability is my friend here, with some body language, but I don't have much hopes with these young girls because they're way more into the physical part.

So, I give some looks, I'm confident and give some signals here and there,make em laugh sometimes which is nice as feedback.

But the keyword here is Oblivious. Not indifferent,not dismissive,not rejection. It's like nothing comes through, and they have this look like they just don't get it, and after a while I understood, I'm not being seen as a sexual being,just as a coworker.

Funny,fun,sometimes interesting, clever and maybe even masculine. That is all nice and I'm sure I'm projecting healthy levels of that.

But totally discarded from the market,like I don't even count Wow that is actually a first. Girls under 24 these days think men just stop their sex life at 30, and that age gap is seen as a long abyss

It doesn't happen with the Online Dating girls.Nope.These girls know I have s dick, sexual needs and they try to grsb me by the wallet

So what do I do when faced with such obvlivious women? Club to the head and ooga booga?

Just as boys are boys and girls are girls, men are men and women are women. Normal men don't think like women, so don't go about deluding yourself with dreams that women will ever think like men. Study the book and don't defecate where you eat.

You should regard your female coworkers as off limits to you and you should be off limits to them. You don't want to be apart of, or know anything about their personal lives, and you should refrain from seeking to bring them into, or make them aware of your personal life. If you walk into the break room and find one is crying, quietly leave the room and let them have their privacy.

@Newbie-Casanova

I think you may have misread my post. I am interested in a relationship. Bought these girls are not showing that they want one by dropping male friends like I have asked them to.

My mistake, but your post mentions that you "have side chicks", which I took for 'spinning plates' as the better descriptive for single guys. The problem here is that like a lot of guys you want females to think and prioritize like we might. It'll take time to learn to give that thinking up.

If you're dating someone and they're doing things that leave you doubting that both your relationship goals and theirs are aligned, ghost them, and move on. There's nothing for you to gain spending any additional time, energy, or money on them.

Study the book. It'll help you learn to spot them for the time wasters they are early on. Outside of that, learn to quietly filter them back out of your life, and learn to maintain your drive and enthusiasm to continue the search for women who are looking for the same things you are.

@DominicTheTiger

Male gaze vs. Female gaze

What works better for you? I've been told by girls I look better with longer hair (cuter, more aproachable). I've gotten used to buzzcuts and it fits my style, does female gaze matter that much when it comes to haircuts?

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Newbie-Casanova

Extreme high interest yet keeping options open?

Over the past year I've met a handful of girls with extreme high interest. Yet they lie about having male friends, why is this? And this means these women should never be trusted for a relationship right?

When I say high interest, these are the type of things that the handful of women did. Travel an hour 3x a week to see me, cook and clean, care for me when I was sick, did most things I asked of them. Yet the ONLY thing these women all had trouble doing, was cutting all male friends.

For example this one girl I knew for a month, wanted to see me everyday of the week. Fucks, cooks and cleans. Then she pushes for a relationship. And I said only if she hasn't been talking to any other guys. And she said no she doesn't have guy friends.

I went through her phone to find out that she has guy friends and has been talking to other men. I'm just so confused as to the extreme high interest yet still keeping their options open. Her excuse was "these guys have girlfriends". Which I won't accept as an excuse. So why do girls push for relationship, show extremely high interest, yet do stupid shit like this?

This happen multiple times for other girls.

I have side chicks, earn good money, currently traveling the world, and physically fit and we'll kept.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=IGVZOLV9SPo

Study the book. They're trying to win you over into forming a relationship with them, because knowing that you're not interested in relationship exclusivity leaves some to see it as their hold my beer challenge to change your mind.

If you've made it clear from the start with these girls that you've got an inventory of plates and have zero interest in relationship exclusivity, and they're not taking it as their hint to keep looking elsewhere, then their attempts to otherwise are irrelevant and you now know who to rotate out of your inventory.

@Prestigious-Exam-599

She Said “Things Will Be Different This Time”… Then Everything Changed

A few months back, a woman came back into my life. We had history. She’d broken up with her ex about three months earlier, and when she reached out, she genuinely wanted to rebuild something real.

From there, things moved fast. We started working out together daily, even went on a diet together. The chemistry came rushing back, emotionally, mentally, and physically. We were having sex constantly, laughing, connecting, and for the first time in years, she was the one chasing. It felt natural, mutual, and easy.

About a week before she found out she was pregnant, she told me “I love you” for the first time in years. She said she felt safe with me and that “things will be different this time.” I believed her. It felt like we were finally aligned.

Then she found out she was pregnant, and everything shifted. She became distant, colder, emotionally guarded. I tell myself part of it might be hormones or fear, but it’s hard not to feel the change.

Recently, she worked a job again, for her ex. She used to work for his company when they were together. It’s not full-time; she just helps package and ship products occasionally, maybe a day or two at a time. I don’t believe it’s about him emotionally, (might be some emotional residue I don’t know) I think it’s her trying to escape reality/hold on to some independence a bit now that she feels it slipping away because of the pregnancy. They say hormones may get women to act irrationally..

The moment I felt her energy shift, I pulled back. I stopped chasing, stopped trying to fix things, and focused on staying composed. I made one mistake early on I questioned paternity since she was distant. (Even though I know it’s not true we were together all day, every day during her conception window) Since then, I’ve kept my frame, given her space, and tried to handle things with patience and respect. I still care deeply for her, but I’m trying to move through this with strength, not fear or attachment.

If any of you have been in a situation like this, where love and distance clash, how did you stay grounded? How do you keep your masculine center when the woman you love starts to pull away at the exact time you both need connection most?

Let me end this with saying we weren't truly ever 'Official' again.

Thanks for reading.

My interpretation is don't overreact even if it seems like she might be losing her mind and acting irrationally because of her hormones but how can I not overreact while i feel betrayed and disrespected.

My questions to ask trp:

Am I crazy for still having hope?

Is it fair to blame everything on hormones?

Do you think time and space actually make a difference in situations like this?

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Study the book. Let the dumb monkey swing to some other branch on the stupid tree. She had her chance with you and blew it.