We often see questions that go something like, “My girlfriend did [insert shitty behavior]. How do I get her to stop?”

The misogynistic blue pill answer is, of course, to communicate with her. Tell her how you feel about her shitty behavior and why, and ask her to stop. Use your feelings to try to guilt and manipulate and coerce her into changing what she wants to do for your sake. Blue pill men are such manipulative cunts. Fucking misogynists.

However, the answer most shitty Red Pill advocates will give is even stupider. Communicate with her. Tell her that you don’t like her shitty behavior, and demand that she stop. Be an asshole about it. Threaten to dump her. Then post something stupid on the internet about how you were “alpha” for enforcing boundaries. Fucking morons.

“Communication” doesn’t work. Whether you’re asking or telling, you’re still communicating, and it doesn’t work. It’s still a negotiation. And you don’t negotiate with children or terrorists. (Women are an interesting mix of both.) I guess if you’re a pussy and need some toned down language: You don’t negotiate with disrespectful people who are handing you shitty behavior.

Women are not stupid. Women know the difference between good behavior and bad behavior. Women know that there are some things that good women don’t do, because it’s disrespectful to their men. If a woman is exhibiting shitty behavior, it’s not because she’s stupid and doesn’t know better. It’s not because you never told her not to. She doesn’t need to be told. She already knows she’s being a shitty cunt.

If a woman is giving you shitty behavior, she is doing it because she doesn’t respect you and either thinks you’re a pussy who’s going to let her get away with it, or just doesn’t care if you leave because she doesn’t want you any more.

Communication is not the solution in that case. No matter how big of an asshole you are about it, how much you demand changes instead of asking politely, or how much you bluster and threaten. By communicating at all, you are whining. You are confirming that she is right to disrespect you. She already knows she’s being a shitty cunt. Verbally confronting her about it is an admission that you can’t control this situation any other way. That you’re powerless and have to resort to asking her to grant you better behavior as a personal favor. Asking her impolitely instead of politely so you can call yourself a manly “Red Pill” man is irrelevant. You’re still begging a woman to do what you want.

Communication is validation-seeking behavior. By telling a girl to do something or to stop doing something, you are asking her to validate that she cares about your feelings by complying with your request. There are some circumstances under which seeking validation from a woman in this way is acceptable, such as commanding her to do something in the bedroom. But in day-to-day interactions, if you have to tell a woman to stop a shitty behavior (that she already damn well knows is shitty), you’re a pussy. You are communicating that you have no other options, so you have to resort to trying to salvage this shitty behavior instead of just leaving.

When a woman respects you, she behaves herself. Because she doesn’t want to risk screwing things up with a guy she respects. In fact, women who respect you are constantly going out of their way doing shit for you to demonstrate their qualities. You don’t have to tell a woman who respects you to behave herself or treat you better. She’s already doing it. Because women know how to be good partners, when they want to be.

When a woman is being shitty, just leave. No pussy is worth putting up with bullshit. You are better off with no female prospects whatsoever than with a shitty girlfriend. Having a shitty girlfriend is like having cancer. Most days, you feel okay and live your life, but in the back of your mind you know that something is slowly eating you alive. You invest a lot of your energy and resources to keep the shitty parts of your life at bay and enjoy the good ones, but as time goes on, it takes more and more out of you. You slowly get used to more and more shit until your life is actually kind of unpleasant. Having that shitty girlfriend tumor invading your organs becomes part of your identity. Your life.

When The Red Pill advises that men should not tolerate shitty behavior from women, it is not advocating that you should confront women and complain about their behavior, as you bluster and threaten and demand your way into looking like an even bigger pussy than you did when you were a blue pill guy. In response to shitty behavior, leave. Cut the cancer out of your life before it kills you.

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