I don't understand any of her hamster logic. Men should always pay for dates because:

1) Women are more at risk for... bad things happening on dates? Even if I cede this, it doesn't explain why men should pay for her food. Also, men are more at risk than women in relationships, because women instigate domestic violence more often.

2) Women have to pay more for a date because she wants to look like a different person? Dressing simply, cheaply, and without fake/gay masks never enters her mind. My wife's entire outfit for going out is worth less than this broad's left shoe, because she is modest in public and saves her nice sexy things for my eyes only.

3) Men get more out of a relationship? Yeah ok. First of all, there is no relationship when you're dating, and increasingly no expectation of one - it's a simple food for sex prostitution arrangement. Secondly, a woman with this attitude will never make a successful wife or even girlfriend. It's all about her: her body, her freedom, her choices. No wonder she's divorced. And any subsequent men she dates only get a more jaded, uglier, fatter version of the original model, insufferable to begin with.

The only good thing to come out of this is knowing that enough men now don't believe her bullshit that she has to resort to making videos about it.

20 years ago, it was considered the automatic expectation that men paid. No one had to make a video to "convince" men to do it.

That said, of course her reasons are pretty awful.

Physical danger has markedly decreased for women, especially compared to the 80s/90s. Kidnappings, violent crime, etc. etc. has decreased drastically. Meaning women are much safer now. Plus, no one is asking this woman to go home with a strange man on the first date. Meeting someone in public at a restaurant is hardly some life-threatening risk. Otherwise, why do they go alone and eat by themselves? If restaurants are such dens of scum and villainy, no woman, or group of women, should ever be allowed to go to them without male chaperones and/or a security detail. Preferably with a burka on to keep men from being consumed by their lust (who knew Saudi Arabian men were the original feminists?!)

Second, most guys I know, would far, far rather, for a first date, have a woman come out naturally. No makeup, simple t-shirt and jeans. Sure, you can have some personal style, but we'd rather see you as you really are, than some dolled up version that has no resemblance to what you'll look like the morning after. Of course, after dating, there are times when you might want your woman to get dressed to the nines, either because the function requires it, or because you want to show her off as arm candy. But for the first date? Heck no. That's all on women who are trying to deceive men into believing they're prettier than they actually are.

And of course, #3, the biggie. A relationship is not more beneficial to a man. Not when divorce rape exists. For those two years while she was putting her body through pregnancy, who was schlepping to work and putting in the hours to earn the money for her to stay home? If you think a 9 month pregnancy is so hard and destroys your body, try being a construction worker for 40 years and let us know how your back feels.

There's a reason why dowries existed: because women were generally seen as economic burdens, and a man, by taking that burden off a woman's father, was given money to compensate. That reason still exists today (although for different reasons: plenty of women have jobs, but because they all want to marry up, their husbands are usually richer, and therefore, any divorce with a 50/50 split will naturally favor the woman).

Regardless, she can spout whatever nonsense she wishes to, or whatever gets her clicks on tiktok. Just the fact that she has to do it means guys are seeing through this charade, and if they don't want to pay for a date, women either agree to split the cost, or stay home.

Story time: One of the girls i used to hang out with, in her early 20s, hot blonde, was actively looking for a guy (she had a crush on me, but I was married). Anyway, she was telling me about one of her dates. It was with a medical student. And basically, they went to a cheap fast casual-type restaurant. He bought her a coffee, but otherwise, they each paid for their own meals there. She obviously held it against him, saying stuff like "I believe in equality and everything, but come on now!" I didn't say anything, but I was secretly smiling inside, cheering on the unknown dude. At that time, she had a job, while he was still a poor student, so technically, she actually out-earned him. If anything, she should have paid for them both. And if she was smart, she'd have done so: for a $10 investment, she would have so surprised him that he would have genuinely thought of her as wife material, and in a few years, he'd be making sweet doctor money and probably would have taken her along for the ride.

Instead, she dismissed him because, as a poor student, he couldn't afford to pay for her dinner, never once considering that in a few years, he'd be making several multiples of her salary, and if she didn't hitch herself to him now, when competition was low, if she ever decided to come back in a few years, he'd have tons of far better women throwing themselves at him that she'd need to beat out. All for a refusal to invest $10 that she could have easily spared...