What's going on.... I dunno man, but a few things:

Everything got harder post covid. A lot of dating has moved online. Even the IRL girls are online at least some of the time (either Tinder or facebook / insta / whatever).

It feels very different out there now.

I think.... not certain... but I think it's because girls have such insane options online. They can flirt with top 0.1% guys. And after that, the real guys just don't look that good anymore.

It doesn't occur to these girls that they can't all marry the same top 0.1% guys. They are caught up on the flirting and the hoping, and they do not want to drop their standards to real guys.

At least I think that's what's going on.

What to do about it, for you:

Looksmax, obviously. Don't aim for good. Don't aim for great. Aim for fucking fantastic.

Don't do OLD if it doesn't work for you. It's a massive time and energy and emotion sink if it doesn't work quickly and easily.

Cashiers/waitresses/etc: don't bother with anyone working a job. They flirt for tips, they give numbers to avoid conflict.

Do continue to push for dates. It's a great way to call her bluff. If she doesn't go for it, just cut her out. This is how you avoid timewasters, I think you're good at this, but you could do better.

Do try to understand how women say no and why they are not overt: they don't like to say no, they don't like conflict. Sometimes it's to string you along, sometimes they just don't know how to say no, sometimes they are being conflict avoidant. It is unfair on men to expect men to do all the work, and then fail to even be clear about what they want. But that is the world we live in. Try to understand where they are coming from so that you learn to shrug it off faster, avoid wasting time, and avoid the mental struggles you have with women whereby you are confused they seem to chat for ages while being reluctant to go further.

And by "try to understand" I mean to understand ..... for your own benefit, not theirs. If they don't go for a date, cut them off. Just say "ok, no problem"..... two more texts to see if she changes her mind, then stop responding.

These girls are mostly between 27 and 33, and not HB8, mostly HB6-7, some single moms so none of them super

Ok.... some issues to unpack here.

Women fucking suck from 27 to 33. It's their worst age. Something in their heads flips and they suddenly do a life reevaluation and decide that men owe them everything.

Not much you can do about this, but try to include women outside this age range.

The "cute/average" ones are the worst because they know they're not the hottest, but they actually get most of the offers. Most guys go for "least hot girl that would be fun to fuck", in order to maximise their chances. But the problem is that almost all guys do this, so little miss "cute but not perfect HB7" gets a lot more interest than poor miss HB9 sitting in the corner with her perky tits all neglected.

Fix this by going for hotter girls.

Single moms: take these on merit. Usually single moms are worth vastly less to date and simultaneously have sky high demands. Her needs have gone up, so her demands go up, even as her value has plumetted. Try to understand this dynamic, because otherwise you'll think "I can't even get a single mom".

Suggestion for you: understand that single moms are usually stupidly demanding ("I only have one free night per month so you have to take me out and show me an amazing time before providing for me and my daughter and no, don't expect sex"). If one comes along that just wants fun then great..... but don't expect them to be dateable or easier.

In conclusion: be hot, raise your standards, understand how and why passive rejection happens, forget cashiers and waitresses, and understand that single mom HB7 is much harder work and has much less value than neglected "too hot to handle" HB9.

I was pretty broke 4 months ago, now I'm doing better, saving money, buying clothes I needed, healthy food, supplements and even my first guitar. Life is being kind to me and I feel favored after a long rut. I even got to fuck a girl in the first weeks after I found the job.

I found a well paying job, got some great indicators from other teachers, supervisors, students and even the academy's director about my english level,pronunciation and teaching. (I'm an english teacher in one of the most,if not the most, prestigious and oldest academies in my state in latinamerica). Feedback and validation is much needed at work, maybe the only place I really need some proper validation and actual evidence of doing a good job.

Yes,I'm focusing on myself, but at my 37 years old.that means taking care of my sexual needs before I'm too old.

I keep chatting girls up in OLD and they shut down, lose interest, ghost and make up an endless current of excuses when I show interest in dating,going out and having a first fucking date (like I have many times before, and where It could die off too, just 1 date.) Approaches IRL have ended up the same, I asked 2 cashiers who actually showed interest themselves after I just looked at their asses or was just confident enough to look at them in the eyes and chat while I was doing my shopping. 3-4 of these encounters later I asked for their numbers. They actually started the flirty shit, with "Don't cheat on me with another cashier" or Softly shaking my hand when it was my birthday. Plus actually giving me their numbers, just say "no", darling.

We chat, one of them didn't go past a couple uninterested and low effort texts, and the other one made the big ol' current of excuses everytime the conversation shifted towards a more intimate, romantic approach (not even sexual). I told her I wouldn't chat her up for one month until her job allowed her some free time, specially since the texting was also low effort and low interest.

I haven't had the success I would've loved to have before but I'm not doing anything too different, yet these chicks are shutting down like they're getting paid for it. At least 5 years ago i was going on a few first dates, kissing, holding hands and whatever.

It doesn't help that I find my own country's women just fucked up,boring and a clone to talk to. It is indeed a homogeneous mass, always the same woman it seems, in different skins.The physical beauty is top notch, sure. more often than not. But inside they're crap, at least to me, and that keeps me a bit demotivated. It has always been this way for me,in my own country/city.

I'm sincerely looking for a girlfriend, a steady girl to fuck and not get too attached to or make long term plans with, and they're not showing up at all, totally absent. At least a slut to have chemistry with and not having to fool her with dreams of being her lovjng partner forever.

What am I doing wrong? I'm 37, good looking after 9 months of working out consistently and even on the road to look better after some time with supplements and healthier, cherry picked food. These girls are mostly between 27 and 33, and not HB8, mostly HB6-7, some single moms so none of them super

To answer my own question: I'm working on better pics for my OLD account, already got a few. But IRL girls are just playing around.I do think I need to approach more and more and see what happens. But doing something wrong? Beats me, i'm doing the same I was doing in my more successful days before the long rut. Maybe it has something to do with my age now? I'm told I look much younger than 37 on a weekly basis.