For example, 2 of them used to buy me dinner or gifts all the time. Just, no intimacy.

Ok, so female friends.

I've been blocking them because I fear that I might get jealous and simp at some point, and ridicule myself but idk if this is an ego thing because those chicks could still be useful as wingmen. Or they might not because they might gossip about how they friendzoned me to other chicks.

I doubt they'd gossip about you in a way that's detrimental to you

And I'm also not telling them anything when I block, so it might seem weird. I could be overthinking things as well. Any insights?

Look.... female friends is good. No need to block, so long as they are genuine friends. Genuine friends benefit you and your life and it's a mutual thing. If that's what it is, great.

The ones you block are the ones who friendzone you while being shitty friends.

I still see regular guys with these chicks and it sometimes makes me think is it social situation these guys are in like social groups are the only way to really connect with these high smv women.

Well yeah.... social game is generally the easiest way.

The crazy part is a lot of my friends pull, but they never approach.

how does it work for them?

It's actually so weird they don't get approached or anything really but I guess either social game, or they maximize their opportunities when they go out.

Well, someone is talking to someone, so how is it happening?

I approached for all of us the whole trip and it felt like a losing game, most approaches were actually good, but I feel I need to take the next step, maybe improve my physical and verbal escalation.

The reality is that you're looking at around 1 out of 30 cold approaches leading to sex (day game, no IOIs). Night game, with IOIs and social proof, maybe that's one in 20......... 1 in 10 if you are very good and very attractive.

You should be physically escalating. Available women love it. Unavailable women hate it.

It feels like you're constantly being assessed, like looks, status, frame, even social media,

yes, but not in the way you think.

but I want these hot girls, I need to turn conversations more exciting

right, so do what excites you and talk about what you find exciting.

I have no idea how to be challenging and

Not hugely relevant. Work on being emotionally engaging.

I think thats where im going wrong. Heavily relying on my looks and I dont get nearly as much iois as I used to.

Right

It feels like a clock is always ticking, not that im scared of getting old, but that I'll have less time as it gets eaten up by bigger priorities(many of these things are good).

You are nerding out on irrelevancies now.

This all doesn't help that as I enter my 30s Im struggling to find a place for women in my life, the time the energy to get them.

ok

The activation energy, if you will seems so high that I'm losing my peace. I barely have time for any leisure any more with work which is fine but im becoming increasingly neurotic toward women, my libido is high and it almost feels like I have a sex addiction without the sex, a bottomless pit, a never ending sense of gluttony like itll never be enough no matter how may women, maybe it's the fierce competitiveness in me to always want to do better. That being said I actually like my life more now and seem to have found some meaning but the feeling still exists.

you need to work out what you want

How can I finally be a challenge and conquer this hold I've had over my life?

you don't need to be a challenge, you need options

I'm sorry if this post is incoherent and jumpy, but I couldn't even figure out exactly what I'm trying to articulate. I took some time to think it through and read a lot of the recent asktrp, and now I'm even more confused.

What do you want? If you want sex, get sex and then work out what you want next.

It seems like you still have women on a pedestal because you have a massive lack of experience and social calibration. Most likey due to your lack of practice and experience when you were young. There isn't going to be a shortcut to fix your lack of experience and calibration. Reps Reps Reps....practice.

Go out more...talk to more women. Most of all....stop focusing on one woman at a time. This will slow your progress massively. If you get a phone number.....don't spend 3 weeks trying to land that girl. Instantly look for the next....you should be talking with 3-4 women at a time. There is nothing that will replace the feeling that abundance can give you, and its a feeling thats hard to fake. Women can smell deseperation on you a mile away. They know when you have other women....and they want to fuck guys the HAVE OTHER WOMEN.

This doesn't mean you need to be at the bar 5 nights a week staying up till 3 am. I see attractive women every day just living life. This is where you want to mainly operate.....when you see an attractive woman, go talk to her. Not to book her...just to have a human experience with another person. Talk about anything mundane in regards to the situation. " Nice weather today right...what are you up to" " hey do you know a good place to eat around here?" " I like those shoes....are they comfortable?......are you a runner?" "I need some advice on this shirt....do you like this style" great opener at the mall. stuff like that...and if she seems interested in the conversation...smiles....fixes her hair...doesnt seem likes she wants to run off you keep the convo going for maybe 2 minutes. Then you say, hey I have to go...but it was nice talking with with. If you ever want to grab a drink here's my number. she will tak out her phone and put your number in.....or she won't. No pressure on her...then the ball is in her court to reach out if she is actually interested. Dont wait unti you are at te best club...the hot vacation spot.....the ideal situation to now talk to women. Talk to them DAILY. Then you weill get much better at it.