I have a girlfriend but I have kissed and slept with another women. This happened in December.

When we had sex and kissed there was some mention of my girlfriend.

• throughout the night when we touch lips, she pulled back and said I had a girlfriend we can’t do this. (I didn’t say anything).
• we started making out she pulled back and said she can’t do this to my girlfriend (I said it’s my problem to fix) after kissing more she said “no more. You love your girlfriend and you can work it out” (I replied I just want you). she said she can’t be the 2nd women.
• I can’t remember much after but we kissed and then had sex at her place).

Anyway a month later we are going out again for a date. She knows I have a girlfriend and still is going on a date with me but what do I say when she mentions it?

My thoughts

• tell her I’m on a break with my gf but as she still living with me until she finds a new place? just tell her the truth.
• That I have a girlfriend but I don’t feel romantic feelings but can’t let her go right now as she dependent financially on me as she works part time.
• just lie and hope for the best and say I’ve broken up with her.

Great post

Genuine friends who are female, while rare, can exist.

I have a handful of female friends that I met at work (that said, only one of them I would call a genuine friend that will extend beyond when I have a different job). They are chicks that are married/in serious LTR's, most of which I wouldn't be interested in physically anyways. Sometimes I add value to their lives by giving advice on their nightmare marriages or whatever, and to be honest sometimes they do add value to my life not by giving me tips on game (don't ask a fish how to catch fish), but moreso style tips (chicks can have good insights here) or wingmaning for me.

side from the same reason you want male friends (companionship, you do shit for each other, etc), they offer something male friends don't necessarily give very well: strong social proof.

This. I really only spend time with them realistically when at work and stuck there, though occasionally I'll go out with them and it's a huge social proofing/halo to be in a large group with mostly women. There has been many times where they have TOLD me to approach a girl I wasn't going to before. Definitely friendships that have added more value than they have been a value sink. One could argue whether most of these girls are truly friends like the dudes I have known since I was in kindergarten and went to my mom's funeral but for the sake of argument we will go with it