If you want to have sex with women, you have to make sex appealing to them. Because women have a lot of choices and only so much time and energy they can give to you.

Like all humans, every woman you encounter only has 24 hours in the day to spend, and only a certain amount of physical and emotional energy to devote to any particular task. For example, you wouldn’t expect a high-powered career woman to have much time to be a good mother, keep a good house, fuck her husband six times a day, or even be emotionally available to her husband for more than a few token minutes each night. You wouldn’t expect a single mother, whose first obligation is to her child(ren), to have nearly as much time and energy to devote to being a good partner as a woman who isn’t similarly burdened.

We all have our jobs, our families, our friends, our obligations, our hobbies – shit to do. And the more shit we have to do, the less time and energy we have for other shit.

This means that if you want a woman who is one hundred percent devoted to the satisfaction of your dick, you need a woman who doesn’t have any other shit to do. Obviously, this theoretical ideal doesn’t exist in the real world, but the general principle applies: The more you lean on your woman in other capacities (and the more you let her run amuck inventing other work for herself), the worse job she will do at being your woman.

If you try to be friends with your woman, that’s just less time she’ll have to be a good woman. Many married men and guys in committed relationships start to spend all of their time with their women. They lose touch with their friends. Often, their women actually insist on this, and the guys buckle, give up their friends, give up their hobbies, give up their outings, give up their alone time, and start spending every waking moment doting on their women. This is a huge mistake. Having guy friends and independent shit to do is critically important. I know that men are often touted as stoic, emotionless, angry assholes who never get lonely, but that’s bullshit. Humans are social creatures, and if you don’t have any friends, you’re going to start talking to your wife or girlfriend about what’s going on in your life and how you feel about those things. It’s only natural.

If you don’t have friends and independent interests, you’re going to start using your woman as a friend and primary social outlet, and that’s emotionally draining for her. The more you lean on her as a friend, the less time and emotional energy she’s going to have to be your woman. Your woman’s job is to be a repository for your dick, not your words and feelings. Women don’t want to be the dumping ground where you moan about your day, your troubles, and your worries. That’s what your friends are for. Or your dog. The more you use her as your friend, the less you can use her for fucking.

Many men are shitty leaders. They don’t take ownership of their shit and get their lives, and the lives of their women (and children if applicable), in order. They often use their women as secretaries and social planners. Once a relationship is in place, guys get lazy, and the women start planning the events and outings, deciding who to hang out with, what needs to be taken care of around the house or apartment, and so on. It’s become a bit of a trope for women to assign their men a honey do list, because their men are lazy, disorganized chumps who don’t take care of anything unless nagged into it. Most guys just don’t have any pride or initiative any more.

When your woman is your secretary, your social planner, your employee, or maybe even your boss, she’s too busy managing shit and keeping track of shit and taking care of shit to do a good job being your woman. If you take care of that shit instead, your woman can focus on being your woman and taking care of your dick. Women are limited. They can’t handle the stress of two roles in a day.

If you’re constantly gushing your feelings and pouring your heart out to your woman, you’re making yourself a very unfair burden. It’s your job to attend to your feelings and your happiness, not hers. Making yourself happy is your own job. If she has to tend to your feelings and make you feel better when you’re down, like a little child, then she’s your mommy. And there just isn’t enough time and energy in the world for her to be both your mommy and your woman. Her job is to tend to your dick, not your feelings.

The more you try to use women for anything other than sex, the less sex you’re going to have, and the shittier the sex will be. A woman can only relax and become truly passionate when she feels safe. Yes, that’s something a feminist would say. I know. But to an extent, it’s true. However, we at The Red Pill know what actually makes a girl feel safe, and it’s not flowers, expensive restaurants, and obtaining written permission before pecking her on the cheek. A woman feels safe when she feels owned. Led. Like she doesn’t have to worry about anything because her man has all of life’s shit under control, and the tools to handle any unexpected shit that comes his way.

She doesn’t have to be his friend – he has plenty. She doesn’t have to tend to his feelings – he knows what he wants and makes himself happy, and even brings her along sometimes. She doesn’t have to manage his life – he manages hers. A woman feels safe when she’s well-led.

It’s important to note that leadership goes beyond basic self-improvement and being a badass. You have to actually lead her. If you have the greatest and happiest life imaginable and don’t need her for anything but sex, yet you don’t lead her, she’s just going to invent a bunch of bullshit to keep herself busy, and convince herself that it’s important. That’s how badass guys somehow end up with stupid bitches who can’t put their cell phones down for two seconds, own ugly dogs that they treat like people, get drunk with their slutty friends every weekend, and work suspiciously late hours at their part time office jobs. If you don’t control your woman, she runs around doing stupid shit to feel important.

When dealing with shitty men, women are bitchy. They set boundaries and impose rules and requirements prior to sex. They find other things to do with their lives and prioritize those other things over their men.

When dealing with awesome men, women practically beg to be owned like property. They just use whatever modern egalitarian words correspond to that concept, and pretend it’s just a sexual kink, because actually admitting that you prefer being a slave to an awesome man is sacrilege in the modern world.

One of the more common traits among loser guys that can’t get laid is social awkwardness. Social awkwardness is one of the greatest turn-offs to women, second only to being ugly. However, while being ugly is technically a larger handicap with the ladies, a lack of social skills is an even more crippling deficit overall, due to the fact that poor social skills affect every single other aspect of your life in a much more pronounced way.

We all know one or two ugly dudes who somehow bang girls. But social retards that are getting laid are a much rarer find. Social retards are the ones that end up snapping and raping people or shooting up universities. And when a socially awkward guy gets lucky and ends up in a relationship, things nearly always go terribly.

The reason is actually pretty simple: Social retards have trouble making friends. Their body language and posture and facial expressions are weird. They talk about strange things and use unusual language to do so. Their vocal inflections are off. Sometimes, they say inappropriate things. They don’t emote when they should. Or they do emote, but not appropriately based on the interaction. When other people are talking about normal stuff in a normal way, they just kind of stand there and don’t have anything to contribute, or they over-contribute in tangential ways and try too hard. They’ve been rejected their entire lives, so they’re shy and don’t walk up and engage people at a gathering. When they do, they get clingy and follow the first person who will talk to them around all night instead of working the room properly.

They’re just off-putting. It’s unattractive behavior. People don’t like them. People don’t invite them to things. People are less inclined to hire them, promote them, patronize their business, refer clients to them, and so on.

As socially awkward losers age, they learn coping skills. I guess you could say that they grow out of their awkwardness, at least a little bit, and find their groove in life. They have a few close friends – often friends from childhood that they’ve kept over the years. They have a few less close friends – usually co-workers, neighbors, or other people they’ve met and clung to purely based on proximity. A lucky few even manage to land a girlfriend, though things usually end or turn unhappy pretty quickly.

Socially awkward men suffocate their women. They’re clingy, needy, and off-putting. At first, it’s kind of endearing how the guy is around all the time and dotes on her, but this rapidly wears thin. Because socially awkward losers don’t have many friends, they don’t have anywhere else to go or anybody else to hang out with. They’re always around. Always calling, always texting, they want to go out every single weekend. They don’t have anyone or anything else going on in their lives. From the moment this girl agreed to the first date, she’s been the central focus of his life.

This is reflected in his behavior. He’s always so polite, respectful, nice, but he does this mostly because he’s afraid of offending her, driving her off, screwing things up. He’s always paying for shit and doing nice “thoughtful” things, for the same reasons. He’s trying so hard to hide who he really is that he’s actually kind of boring. He doesn’t really escalate toward sex because he’s more interested in maintaining the relationship than fucking, which is actually a big turn-off.

Toward the twilight of the relationship, she starts to pull away, and he alternates between clinging tighter and lashing out. She’s worn out from his neediness, because unlike she initially expected when dating a man, he hasn’t been using her primarily for sex. He’s been using her for everything. Friendship, emotional support, validation, entertainment. He doesn’t have any friends, so in addition to being his girlfriend, he’s been trying to make her his best friend, his primary source of emotional support, his primary social outlet, his primary source of intellectual stimulation.

It’s too much. She just wanted to date a cute guy, have some fun, have some sex, and see where things went, and this loser is simply too emotionally needy. Due to his social awkwardness, he doesn’t have any other sources of emotional support in his life, and he’s stuck relying on one woman for all of that. And we know how reliable women are when it comes to supporting men in need.

The toxic blue pill world tells us that we’re supposed to date and eventually marry our best friend. That relationships aren’t about sex – they’re about intimacy. That we should focus on personality, common interests, intelligent things to talk about – essentially that we should spend all of this time trying to be friends with women we want to fuck.

That’s not fair to women. You can’t do that to a person. It’s not right. You can’t expect one person to be your emotional support network and your love interest at the same time. That’s a huge burden, and women don’t want to carry it when there’s a guy just as cute as you, or cuter, who’s willing to give her a no-strings-attached deep dicking, then go back to his own friends and social network instead of suffocating her.

If you don’t have friends – guy friends – then you need to get out and meet people. Make friends. Grow a social network. Get yourself some things to do, places to be, people to see, and guys you can talk to. Stop relying on women for friendship and emotional support. They’re not up to the task. Women are for fucking. They prefer it that way.

Escape the blue pill mentality of trying to be emotionally intimate with your sex partners and just fuck them. It’s okay to rely on different people for sex and emotional support. Women have been doing it for years.