OF or prostitution is like buying groceries. You get to see what the product is, how much it costs, and you have a pretty solid idea of what you're getting when you fork over the cash.

Going on a date has more in common with a job interview than grocery shopping. You go on a date to figure out if the person is right for you, they do the same to you, and in many cases one or both of you will decide to not move forward. Do you see any applicants throwing money at companies just to get interviewed? Of course not, that would turn job hunting into a pseudo-gambling dynamic that would encourage companies to do interviews even with applicants they're not really interested in hiring. And THAT is why some men will spend thousands on pussy (insane if you ask me, but besides the point) while asking you to split the bill on a date. With the former, they're buying a clearly-labeled product; with the latter, they have no clue what they're getting, if anything at all.

For context this girl has been very respectful so far, does not entertain other guys at all and has a strong belief that you should not be talking to your former partners/hookups.

I'm confused then, so why did this come up? And let me get this straight, you don't know this will happen yet, you are just worried it might?

And this is presumably the same ex she went raw with that you were bothered by?

You need to read: [Obsessing over a slutty past is an indirect pedestal; Assume she's a slut, but don't obsess](Obsessing over a slutty past is an indirect pedestal; Assume she's a slut, but don't obsess) because you're about to break a good prospect over your own insecurities, suggesting that you aren't ready for a relationship as is

And to me it depends on the ex. I have been with some women who have had respectful exes that do not bother them and who don't have contact with them to my knowledge. I have had other girls whose exes are a pain in the ass

Why would you want to set a boundary to a woman you are not official with instead of watching and seeing what she does instead? Why do you want to sabotage your own vetting process by telling her something would bother you instead of seeing if she will do it

A major part of pre-relationship vetting is quietly observing to see what she does without telling her every little thing that would bother you, which I only really informs her of what gets to you.

It's one thing to establish boundaries to something a woman you are seeing has already done, it's another thing to forego the luxury of getting to see what kind of woman she is just because you are insecure over a mere cordiality

If he reaches out it's fair to ask how involved he still is in her life but if that's all it is is a hpoy birthday wish and a mere thank you, then I don't know why you'd be so upset.

I have had exes be quite respectful of me and my current relationships. I have ran into exes and the two girls ended up being friendly. An ex just gave me some major advice that seriously helped me out in a predicament that was really affecting me.

None of those exes are trying to fuck me. They were however nice and cordial. You should – if any of your fears even happen in the first place – then try to know how involved they are and then maybe say a very small emotionally non-reactive quip about expectations, but otherwise don't fuck up your prospect

There are some exes I have told girls to cut off before but really at that point the fact they couldn't already with how awful the ex was should have been a reason for me to discontinue anyway so really you need to get your head on straight dude