Responding to DMs: Dealing with "Immaturity"

Oh boy, there's a lot to unpack here, gentlemen (and ladies in the chat), so let's GOOOOOO!

As mature women, we try our best to connect with men that may seem confident,

In other words, she tried to lock down Rich Chad

But they seem to be consumed by this notion that there are plenty of fish in the sea

This is correct. A Rich Chad does have millions of options. Because he's rich, and because he's Chad.

For example, I spoke to this man for a year

Of course she did. Rich Chad always gets the benefit of the doubt for as long as it takes. Because he's rich, and because he's Chad.

Blah blah blah Rich Chad wouldn't commit

That's a failure on her part. She was aiming for Rich Chad who is way out of her league, thinking she's a 10 when she's at best a 6 or 7. She doesn't realize her "value" is in the eye of the beholder, not what she claims her value to be.

When I questioned his motives he said, we are not exclusive yet

Again, another failure on her part. This was her sign that she needs to step up her game and become worthy of being exclusive with Rich Chad. Instead, she sat around waiting for it to happen, thinking he was the only one who had to put in the effort to keep the relationship from stagnating.

When I questioned him again he said I'm immature and blocked me

A few more months go by without her putting in any effort. She failed the Rich Chad Test. Notice it was he who dumped her. She was more than willing to keep the charade going, but she kept pissing and moaning about commitment instead of enjoying the time together, and he'd finally had enough.

Keep in mind, this is a man in his 30's

Here comes the shaming language. His age has nothing to do with her actions. Instead of womaning up like a mature adult, she acted like a child and got dumped. Rich Chad isn't interested in dating children.

Just because men are successful doesn't give them the right to play around with our emotions

Rich Chad vetted her for a whole year. I'm surprised it took that long for her to show her true colors. Now, she wants to frame it as "emotional abuse" and make him out to be the bad guy.

This is just another lesson for men to vet their women properly, because women will eventually out themselves. It may be 6 months. It may be a year. It may be 5 years. Women can't hold out the facade forever.

Now, on the therapist side,

I think that this is straight up manipulation

Of course, it's Rich Chad's fault. She isn't pointing out that her client tried to punch way above her league, and that he gave her the benefit of the doubt for an entire year, and that she failed to live up to Rich Chad's standards.

Men like this are keeping you around as an option in case they don't find something better, or because it strokes their ego in some way

The shaming language continues. Rich Chad can always find better. She is being kept around because she has potential, because he thinks she's worth a bit of his time, but it's up to her to prove she's worth it. It's not an ego thing. Rich Chad doesn't give a shit what anyone thinks. He's merely weighing the risk vs. reward and how much return on his investment he's getting.

I think it's more valuable to use this as an example of how characters like these are given so much leeway and given such an absurd amount of time and attention

OOPS! She said the quiet part out loud. However, it's not her that's the one that's doing it, and she steers clear of saying directly it's her client that's doing it, but in general it's other women that's doing it. It's all their fault, not hers.

Now, it's obvious that these people are bringing enough to the table that it garners interest. In this case, this man is successful

Women are always interested in Rich Chad. Not because he is interesting, has a great personality, or is generally a good guy, but because what he brings to the table is what they exclusively benefit from. Because he is Rich, and because he is Chad.

However, it shouldn't take too long to clock the type of person this is from their actions, and as soon as you're able to tell what they are, it's time to drop them

Solid advice for both women and men, but women with ($.$) in their eyes throw away all reason and do whatever they can to try and lock Rich Chad down, because they know what comes with Rich Chad is money, status, and bragging rights to other women.

Blah blah blah more man shaming on Rich Chad

The thing is, she didn't waste her time. She got all the benefits of getting time, attention, and resources from Rich Chad while she was in his presence. What she did waste was her opportunity to prove she was worth even more. Instead, she became complacent and acted like she had already sealed the deal when she was far from it.

And she said, by the way, I believe he's in your pool of applicants.

She couldn't land Rich Chad, so she wants no other woman to be able to get a shot with him. Because Rich Chad's money and resources should have belonged to her, Ms. Matchmaker should kick Rich Chad out. She has his name and number, so she thinks that there still might be a chance she can get her claws dug into Rich Chad outside of the matchmaker's purview, but that won't happen as long as he's still up for grabs.

I'm not going to tell you his name because I'm not out to get him. Blah blah blah I'm an expert at Rich Chadism yadda yadda yadda

However, she's not going kick Rich Chad out of her applicant pool because Rich Chad is driving her business. She can afford to lose the low-cost subscription that the women bring to the table, but what Rich Chad brings to the table is time, attention, and resources for her.

So, yeah, while not all of Rich Chad's resources are hers, she is at least successfully getting a slice of Rich Chad Pie, and when she has many Rich Chad Pie slices, eventually, they do add up to a whole Rich Chad Pie, without having to have the actual Rich Chad.

Notice she doesn't have a ring on her finger. It's obvious she can't land a Rich Chad herself, otherwise she wouldn't even be in the matchmaking business. She'd be shopping and traveling. Unfortunately for her, this is the best she can get, influencing women into buying her services by having Rich Chad applicants to flaunt in their faces.

She's not matchmaking for women. She's selling them a dream. Rich Chad isn't the manipulator. She is.