Whether or not she actively chose to be put on a path to spinsterhood requires you to consider that choices are not simply whether you take a left or a right at the fork in the road. There is in fact a third choice in the question of "which way to go." That third choice is stopping and going neither direction at all. When applied to the dating market, this woman will think "I did not choose to be single at my age," but she in fact did the equivalent of stopping at the fork in the road and choosing not to continue. While taking the left path may have been "become a radical man hating feminist," she may think that just because she did not take the left path that she did not choose to be single. But she failed to continue on the right path of "prioritize seeking a man who is husband material."

Stopping on the road and going no further means you are avoiding the "become a wife and mother" just as much as going on the "I hate all men and want nothing to do with them" path. When it comes to dating and marriage, you need to make active choices to make that happen. Sure, some women "just happen to find a husband without trying," but this does not take into consideration the fact that such women were making other choices in life that put them on the right path that were not noticed, but still contributed to the end result.

This is exactly why it is important for young women to know that they should prioritze seeking marriage as a goal in life if they really, really want to be married and have a family. Especially these days with the state of relationships, it will not "fall into place" nearly so easily.