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I got her number, I texted her a date suggestion, she replied double text with a smalltalk question... Now I fucked up the texting in the past so many times that I try to not text by any means, so I told her straight up that I dont text and suggested a phone call instead. She replied no and goodbye.
I try to chalk it up as doged a bullet and that its fine if she cant handle the not-texting but its bothering me big time. Im now again depressed to a point that this will affect me for the coming weeks, so that Im in no state to approach anyone. There is so much negative shit and worries my brain is spitting out right now, its unreal. This is obviously no way to do things.
Id like to get to the point where failure does not bother me and I can approach constantly. The whole thing with women is full of contractdictions and catch 22s, I cant find a reliable way of dealing with it.
It reads less like you dodged a bullet, and more that you shot yourself in the foot. You seem lazy, but perceptive. Try to be more disciplined and decisive in your actions to overcome your incompetence. Don't text with females to set dates, but rather call them up instead and limit texting to logistics to guide them to a location at the moment of the date. It's a basic mistake a lot of guys young and old will make, but hopefully one you won't repeat in the future.
To better help you with dating challenges like these, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
Read MoreWhat the fuck do I do? I'm 30.
I don't want to fuck 30 year old women. The world is different than it was a few years ago. It seems like young women are never at bars and it isn't a good place to meet them. Is it only possible to meet 18-24 year olds on Tinder or Insta now? I don't know what's going on, I spent the last five years working on some important shit to me thinking that I would just have a higher smv at 30 and life would be easier but it seems like I just have a lower smv from getting older and I don't know how to meet "young ladies" anymore besides dating apps. I'm not doing dating apps right now because there is no point in a town of 10k. The women aren't on there. I feel like guys in their early twenties and shit are very defensive against older men going after younger women and don't want to let you into their social circles so please tell me, what the fuck am I supposed to do? I don't feel comfortable approaching hot girls in public because I can't tell the diference between a 21 year old and a 16 year old. Anybody care to explain? Do I absolutely have to go digital now? What are you doing? Life was easier when I was a 21 year old loser! It feels like I was sold a lie by the red pill. How do I fix this? I don't know how to be 30. Everyone in my small town my age either settled down and got married or got into drugs, I cut off all my old friends because they were going nowhere and toxic people.I'm afraid I'll move to a city and still be isolated. This fucking sucks bros.
Then maybe it's time to spend sometime visiting the nearby cities to find one with a pace and quality of life you think you'd enjoy. Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
Read MoreYo, gang. Need help w/ something ASAP.
+ What do you do or how do you handle getting falsely accused?
That's kind of vague, but if you're in the US and there's any potential for law enforcement to be involved, then it's in your best interests to log-out and consult with a criminal defense attorney on the matter. We're anonymous internet nobodies who could only offer otherwise erroneous advice.
5d ago Ask TRP
@joyboy Its fair enough to vent. My only comment advice apart from "keep on going practising socially and you will get there" is that the way you talk, you are setting yourself up for major oneitis when you get a girl.
One success won't set you up, it will in fact be another step. You will still feel lonely sometimes and you will get a whole different set of issues you didn't have before -managing life with a female in it.
Its easy for us to see the next hurdle as being the thing that will sort it all. The thing is when you get there, you are still practically the same guy you always were just in a slightly different place. You may have changed a tiny bit on the way but you are still the same guy. For me I look back on the big hurdles I really wanted to pass in life and see that after I had done all of them, I realised much nothing had changed in me.
Keep doing everything you are doing for self improvement but also get used to being content in your self, in your own company. This will make you more attractive and more resilient to disappointment but do it really just for yourself. Learn to like and enjoy yourself. Then outward things like women's opinions will matter less.
Read MoreIs it worth explaining after this?
Is it worth explaining to a chick which flaked multiple times that my intentions are only to go out rather than texting? I think no, but it's setting standard, or should I just ignore her and ghost her? Since If she doesn't like me from the start she won't later so what's the point of texting.
If this is the same girl you mentioned last month, then as frustrating as this experience has been for you it's good to know that you're finally coming to understand that she isn't interested in you romantically and that there's nothing you could possibly do to inspire her to be interested in you. Hopefully, you find this useful moving forward.
I don’t have the motivation to go out at night and run hundreds of approaches.
I've never once done hundreds in a month, let alone in a single night.
A few here and there is all it takes, especially if you only approach the ones who show interest (such as by eye contact and smiling).
2w ago Ask TRP
@deeplydisturbed WTF why has no one told me we have the poets tribe here
I want in
@joyboy I do not go out at night and run hundred of approaches and I do not use dating apps at all. I don't even have social media. I am sober now, so I do not depend on alcohol or "night life" to find women.
When I lost my job and I needed another one, I did not put out 100 apps a day. I did nothing for a few weeks, I slowly started watching my money dwindle and I realized I needed to get my name out there into some inboxes so someone would know that I wanted to be hired.
My resume was outdated, so I had to spruce that up and get it up to date. Maybe fudge a couple things and make it sound better to my potential employer, I did that one day. Then the next morning i drank some coffee and with some new found confidence from being happy about the new resume I made, I thought I should my name out there today. I called all the plumbing places around town, got some emails, sent them those directly, that was all I did that day.
Next day I start throwing out apps to other jobs I might be interested in doing, I put 4 apps out into warehouse jobs, that was a day. Next I put 5 apps out into sales jobs, Next day I put few apps out into close retail places (I needed a job!). Next day.... I didn't do any apps.
By next week, I get some calls back. I get a phone interview, I get an email, I get a recruiter calling. The phone interview for the sales job falls through, the email was a dead end too. I get upset and little bit depressed for a second but I have been here before and I know that things will just "WORK ITSELF OUT IN THE END," as long as I don't beat myself in my mind, stay positive, and keep trying again.
The recruiter tells me there is a new plumbing company in town and they are looking for someone with experience, just like me. I get an interview at the end of the week, they like me, I get the job. I only need one job right this moment and then I can go back to the "drawing board" to figure out my next play. I don't need to have my whole life planned out, just need to get this one step completed and then I can move on to the next thing.....
You do not have to hit on a 100 girls in a day, you just have to talk to 1 or 2 everyday, hell, 1 or 2 every week will get you a surplus of women. This rule applies to anything you want to accomplish. You wouldn't do 100 bench presses in a day to get strong, you just do a few sets a week and you will see results over time. You don't read a whole book in a day, you just read a few pages before bed and bam! one day you'll just finish the book.
Read More@Ill_Will7 This thread is the furthest www.forums.red/p/asktrp/322684/field_report_2nd_meetup_off_tinder
I’m not doing much at the moment. I don’t have the motivation to go out at night and run hundreds of approaches. My only interactions with girls is customers at my job or the occasional girl on tinder since my profile activity has gone down quite a bit recently