@Masun

1 guy said I'm uninvested you say otherwise...

Are you at all familiar with synonyms?

..."the problem is that you're too available to people on multiple social media sites, because you either don't value your time and energy, or have nothing particularly important to do from one day to the next"...

A lack of commitment to any one single thing is the same as, or synonymous with, not being invested into any one single thing. '1 guy' and I are likely more understanding of your situation than you are of what either of us have written to help you thus far. You're on snapchat, instagram, and lord knows what else to chat with these girls. You're all over the place. Reign it in.

...I really limited myself and didn't reveal too much, she doesn't know anything about me, so that familiarity doesn't make sense since it doesn't exist.

You're thinking about what you've told these girls about yourself. I'm talking about your over-availability to chat on several different services with any one girl.

I seriously recommend you read Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". If his book and advice archive vibe well with your desire to be successful with females, re-read his media several times, or better yet, study it. The sidebar is too advanced for you, but the book is a solid foundation to start with.

@masun

Why does this keep happening

I've read the sidebar and some of the mentioned materials. I've had some luck with women but not as much as I desired.

The most common thing is flaking in a way where if I do set up a date, they find an excuse 2 3 days later.

For example, I'm talking to this blondie. She's like 6-7. Since I'm younger I added her on snap, we live in a same small town. She kept asking me questions, I didn't chase her at all (like said in lessons). I'll talk to her, snap with her at night and then either seen her or leave on delivered till the next night.

She was always the 1st one to hit me up every night. Since 1st day we didn't talk as much, the 2nd day I asked her out. She was very enthusiastic and wanted to go out. I set up a date and all that.

Day after she would still talk, ask me questions first and all that. Following day she didn't hit me up, maybe she went to sleep or she saw that I'm out and didn't want to bother ig.

Today she hits me up again and sends black screen saying her grandpa is sick and she's visiting him at hospital. It's amazing how they can lie, it's obvisouly an excuse and I had the exact same excuse told before by other girls.

It's really pathetic to lie about your grandpa being at the deathdoor basically and she even has a psalm on her Insta, talk about being "godly".

At that night only 3-4 black screen snaps she sent, but before she would send me half-sexual snaps, she in dress or smth like that.

The problem is she didn't even reschedule, like saying I can't this day let's go the other day. I think I'll ask her again in 2-3 days and if she flakes again I'll remove her.

Why this happens? A girl agrees to go on a date and then flakes, that's basically the most common pattern that I get with girls when they "suddenly" flake.

When a chick flakes, it's because they're not interested. How you deal with that is entirely up to you, but when it happens the best policy would be to cease any further interactions with that specific female, place them on your blocklist, and engage with others when you're ready.

Simply because a girl you asked out on a date says 'yes' one minute, doesn't mean she's obliged to follow-through and go out with you later. What keeps a chick from flaking on any date she sets is her interest in getting to know the guy who asked her out. She needs to be interested in you when you're otherwise unavailable to her. When you interact with her several times over social media, she gains some familiarity with you, and that erodes her interest in getting to know you in person. For females, they think that if they can get your attention over social media, they don't need to waste their time with you in person.

In this instance, the problem is that you're too available to people on multiple social media sites, because you either don't value your time and energy, or have nothing particularly important to do from one day to the next. You're on instagram, snapchat, and likely also on other social media sites like facebook, twitter, linkedin, parler, and whatever else has its hour of fame. And why wouldn't you be? It's free to have an account, many of your relatives, friends, and other acquaintances have accounts. The problem is, using this to make contact with females just makes it easier for them to waste your time and reject you, leaving you frustrated.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@quassis2001

FR Potential AW put her ASD due to me wanting to take a dump

Title is autistic but not misleading.

Background: Me: 25 yo. good job, 180cm, kinda slim with a bit of fat (previously was skinny fat and working on it) so not too intimidating, handsome but with baby face. Her: 24 yo. very good looking girl, has tattoos (because she is an tattoo artist as a hobby, she doesn't do it full time but her paintings are really professional so its not some trashy shit), green flags: very goal oriented, focused on work, doesn't seem to fuck around (but in her past who knows and I don't like to dwell on it), possibly Alpha Widow, her ex which she broke up with 6 months ago: 30 yo. guy with a kid, military, huge, propably would mog the shit out of me, they broke up because he was an alcoholic, wasn't responsible, was mistreating her (cursing her, saying she is shit etc.) and she told me he sat in front of tv, put some sad music and cried that his life is a mess and he is a fucking loser so I don't know what to think of it.

First meeting: We matched on Tinder, she actually is from a city 2h away but it's the city I grew up in so I said fuck it, first I was about to meet at her place, then she at mine but she got sick and she rescheduled, when we met she came to my town and we were talking for 7 hours but I didn't even k-close, her shit tests was so immense that I wonder how the fuck I managed to pass them. She said that I look very young, max 20 yo. and that I'm not that tall (she is 161cm but likes to walk in platform boots). After the meeting she texted that she liked our talk and she feels very safe around me which is rare for her.

Second meeting: Yesterday we meet at her city, she cooked dinner for us, and we talked, listened to music, we were talking about some childhood memories but as you can already see there was no sexual tension in the air. After some time I managed to get her to lie on my chest and she held me tightly, this was my window but at this point I wanted to shit so bad that all I could focus on was not to. So we were hugging each other and then we went to her sleeping room to lie there, it was very late and I guess the constant thinking about shit and her constant shit tests awoken some autism in me and I didn't k-close for solid 5 hours after first hugging session. She was visibly confused and upset (I don't really know what impression that made, because the entire time I was holding frame or atleast tried to, she knows I fuck bitches so it wasn't like she thought I was shy, at least I hope so). She put some eskimos kiss type shit and I still didn't kissed her because I wanted her to make the first move beacuse I was on ego trip or whatever idk. Then I kissed her, we kissed for a couple of minutes, I then went to grab a water, went back to bed and we started kissing again, at this point I tried to escalate but somehow I fucked up escalation ladder and while kissing I went from kissing her lips to kissing her neck to kissing her lips and when I put my hand between her legs she got ASD saying "no, we only met two times". I recently read "Fuck yes or no" so I thought I don't really have stamina for this right now and maybe it's actually good because I wanted to poop so hard but the logistics of it was not in my favour. I just looked at her, smiled, went back to hugging her and some time later when we were hugging she started licking my neck like it was made of sugar, she made one continous move from the collarbone to the base of my jaw with her tongue like it was some lolipop, but I didn't try again to escalate because of my very need to make a poop. At the morning she made us breakfast and I went back to my town.

Some questions:

1. How do you manage situations where you want to poop before f-close and you don't want to ruin the magic.
2. I don't really felt like alpha around her, I mean I was passing her shit tests etc. but the thought of her ex and how alpha he must be to her was really concerning, am I tripping or is she AW?
3. So she propably fucked this ex on first time they met, or at least had some ons but when it comes to me she ASD because sex is special or whatever, but the tongue thing she did was telling me she is freaky af and propably experienced, her denying me of sex was a shit test that I had to push through? Maybe she wanted to poop aswell and it was just unfortunate?

Sorry for retarded FR but if it was normal and succesful I wouldn't write about it here.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@medstudentgerman2002

20yo semi-LTR wants me to commit

Some background: I‘m 22 years old, goodlooking, good style, high-status in the circles I frequent - I’ve taken the steps to increase SMV, however because I’m somehow psychologically fucked I have severe issues wrt closing the deal with women.

So this is my very first plate at 22, never done anything w women before. She doesn’t know I was a virgin before her & thinks I could bag almost any women I want lol.

Anyway it’s been 6 months, I told her in the beginning I don’t want LTR and she’s been chasing me ever since. Slowly escalated to the point where now we hang out 5x/week.

She says stuff like she loves me, she’d do anything for me etc. There’s only little drama and she’s hot enough that it sometimes feels surreal when we do foreplay. Plus she does whatever I want without complaining. She doesn’t pressure me about committing except crying sometimes.

I feel like I should be committing already because isn’t this what every man wants? Other men get nagged regularly by mid gf and don’t complain. On the other hand I feel insecure because this is literally my first girl and maybe I should try other girls before I commit. Thoughts?

You're both in your early twenties. While I honestly can't encourage you to make fast moves to lock this chick down, I'm obliged to offer the following praise for you getting a 'hot chick' in her twenties to want to be taken as your wife after six months. That's not bad, not bad at all. Thing is, you've been up front with us regarding your own mental health issues, which you honestly should prioritize engaging, and females have a habit of laying traps with their tears. However, the reality of the matter is few men will be permitted to be fathers, without first taking a wife. So, if marriage is indeed an objective you have, her desire to get hitched creates an opportunity to both educate yourselves on the matter, and learn if she's sincerely willing to submit to your headship. On that point, I strongly suggest that you reach out to @Lurkerhasarisen, as he's one of the longest married guys on the site. I've no doubt he can provide you with counsel going forward on this matter until such a time as you've read up more.

Until then, recon the mother, and observe how she interacts with your GF's father, so you can get a more tangible idea of what sort of woman your hot chick might age into. Get to know her father and let him get to know you. After you've had a few opportunities to do this, give the GF time to meet your folks. Look for books and find other older men who can mentor you on this journey. Keep in mind, this isn't me encouraging you two to marry just yet, but offering helpful suggestions and ideas to help you get educated on marriage.

Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@greyyyfoxx

Ejecting seems like a good start.. I'd wouldn't say anything, and just keep thinking about solving my problems and life. I life with girl and I make it clear to her that she is not the center of my world. But she won't listen since its not how she feels or believes. I can't have a rational conversation.

Men are males, women are females. While Latin-American females have emotions that run hotter than females north of the equator, expecting rational thought from someone as prone to emotion as a female is just not a particularly rational expectation.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.