@capodonca

After getting a number, how much texting is recommended to secure a date besides logistics?

First post here so sorry if it's dumb question.

I don't want to miss potencial leads being too direct or talking more than necessary.

Should I set up the date after the inicial messages or try to build some confort first and see how she reponds?

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Red_dead

What to do about age gap judgements?

I recently moved in with my childhood best friends, among my friend groups while they are the least social I am probably the closest with them. I initially had my reservations but it was our only chance to live together and only way I could afford to move to a new city. Its honestly not going to great.

Neither live in the real world as in both have 0 ambitions or real world experiences and one skates by on his families money drifting from one hobby to the next.

I'm constantly getting in arguments with them about real world stuff I've actually experienced and one of which today was age gaps. One of my friends plates admitted she dated a late 20s guy when she was 18 and now my friend seems to have taken the opinon that this is bad going as far to say he couldnt be friends with anyone who would do that.

I was busy working so I didnt even have time to argue it, but my question is basically how do you deal with the constant age gap judging? It seems to be a hot topic nowadays. My other friend groups have all said it too.

I live near a huge college campus and a ton of the girls I meet are younger. Is it worth to have to constantly field questions and judgements from everyone. My parents actually have a large gap, but no one cared in their generation. Whats the best way to combat this?

I don't see how you benefit from joining the arguments of the guys you're rooming with. The best way you can both help your friends and thank them for letting you stay with them is to not get drawn into their efforts to remain impotent regarding their lives and instead use that energy to focus yourself onto more fulfilling things.

If you've got no ideas, I'd suggest spending time and energy on addressing the situation that has led to you rooming with your reality impaired friends. Work on paying off any outstanding debts, building up your savings, learning more marketable trade skills, locating a new place of your own to move to later, and spend time making new acquaintances so you're not limited to the ones you presently have. Maybe spend some of that time reading useful books, starting with this one suggested a few months ago. Then should they ask you how you came to achieve what they dismissed as impossible, just share the books you read, and give them encouragement to study, practice, and maintain their momentum.

@AbusiveFather1

Gaming young girls in college as an older guy

I went back to school at 30 and I’m surrounded by girls in their early 20s. I don’t have money so I can’t really stand out from young guys with that. I myself look 18 when clean-shaven, but girls often lose interest when they find out my actual age. If you’ve been in the same position, what’s your top advice to get with young girls?

Really? When I returned to college in my mid-twenties I had an Argentine classmate who was hitting 50, a local small landlord, and practically having to fight the money hungry, gold digging sluts off. He made the mistake of advertising his wealth. It was hilarious to see the blowback firsthand and why I never advertise mine, but that was some years ago.

However, the best advice I can offer is that you read and study the book. Whether you're in middle school, high school, college or university, don't date females that attend the same school. Don't get involved with females who work for the same employer. A man needs some distance and hurdles between himself and the females he gets involved with, so don't s#!t where you eat.

@fumandobebiendo

AWALT, how can I become better at recognizing their crap?

Hello brothers. So, all women are trash and will cheat. I’m trying to vet a bitch that gives me LTR vibes sometimes (good family, been on long LTRs in the past, lowish body count, no tattoos, doesn't party, no slut friends, etc), but I'd like to point some crap I've seen to hear what you guys think:

• Being very secretive of her phone (long password to unlock, fingerprint for all apps, all her chats in WhatsApp are archived so notifications don’t pop up, always on do not disturb, etc)
• Sometimes no answers after 10-11pm, even though she was with me at 9:30pm when I left her home
• Goes to the bathroom for like 20m to "try" to take a shit (I've monitored and she doesn't seem to talk with anybody else as I would hear)
• Tends to entertain other guys at the gym (laughs, flirt, talks, etc) in my fucking face (i play it cool like I don’t notice to not show I care about losing her), some of those guys are even more "Chad" than me
• Doesn’t interact much with me in social media but by spying in her instagram I see that’s not the case with other guys
• Some bikini photos when we went to the beach,
• All pictures are her alone, asks me to take her good pictures on the places places we go to but never publishes the ones with me
• Goes to other places in the house to pick up a call with her mom (I've monitored without her noticing and yeah the conversations seem to be with her mom given the stuff she talks there, the thing is, why the fuck she does that)

Essentially I need to understand how do you identify the line between being a controlling beta simp / stalker and being just not an idiot? I don't want her to cheat on me without me noticing, that would make me feel like an imbecile. I guess my question would be how can I better monitor for her cheating to see if she’s worth it

I also think sometimes she is just plating me but would like to hear how do you recognize that too. Sex tends to be great 2-3 times/week and we see each other frequently as we live close. Has never denied a plan to me or done other stuff that could make me suspicious (only the points I mentioned).

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.