@universitythrowaway

How did you know monogamy was not for you?

As the title suggests, every time I enter a relationship—even with a "perfect" girl by RP standards (younger, virgin, cooks, cleans, submissive, affectionate, loves children, shares my beliefs)—I still find myself thinking about being with other women. My girlfriend is 21, and I’m 24.

This happened in my previous relationship as well. I spun plates for a while before committing, but once in a relationship (currently almost 2.5 years), I start thinking about being single again. I’m unsure if this feeling will ever go away. I see mixed opinions—some say they prefer a committed relationship over spinning plates, while others insist they are strictly non-monogamous.

How did you determine whether monogamy was or wasn’t for you?

Did you experience similar thoughts about other women while in a relationship? If so, did you act on them? Did those feelings eventually fade?

I feel torn. I can envision a future where I embrace non-monogamy—only spinning plates or having OLTRs. But I can also see myself settling down and starting a family with my current girlfriend, as she checks all the right boxes. Am I feeling this way due to social conditioning, or is monogamy simply unnatural for men, as history and nature seem to suggest?

I’d love to hear your experiences and insights on how you figured it out.

Those are some deep questions. Unfortunately, we came to our conclusions regarding our interest/disinterest in monogamy differently and you'll have to figure that out for yourself. If instinct is telling you to keep riding the dragon, be responsible about it, and use contraceptives when doing so.

If you don't feel yourself ready for exclusivity in a relationship, or monogamy, at this point in your life, then don't pretend for the sake of pleasing others. Make sure the females you get involved with understand that you're not interested in being exclusive from the start and let them know they're free to keep dating other guys who might. Be prepared for the females who will take that as a challenge, because they're going to be the ones who create problems for themselves with you.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@Wintergreen

Preselection

One thing I don’t get is preselection.

I thought it meant that girls liked guys who had OPTIONS, not guys who PURSUED other options.

For example: if a guy was trying to land a girl, finally had a date set, and then the day before the date he posted a picture/video at the club dancing with other girls, shouldn’t that mess up his chances with the first girl?

What if it was a selfie with another girl?

A. What does the girl think/feel when she sees that?

B. What is the point of posting that from the guy’s perspective? Does he think it will give him points, or does he just not care how it affects things even if he’s been trying for a while with the girl in question?

Don’t get me wrong, I understand that if he posted those videos WHILE she was playing hard to get it could help his chances. But once she agrees to a date, shouldn’t that hurt his chances?

Regardless of their status, females don't think like males do and never will. The sooner you come to understand this, the better. Pre-selection isn't about her liking any guy, but rather about the awareness that she has of competition for a guys time and attention such that it piques and maintains her interest. If a female you know sees images of another girl having fun with you, then she'll simply expect you to entertain her just as diligently should her turn come around. The worst thing that could happen for you wouldn't be the date flaking on you with that awareness, but rather her following-through on the date to ask who the other girl was, and why you sent them the photo.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

@quassis2001

Whats your opinion on having kids?

Im 25 yo. Some time ago I broke up with LTR due to me not wanting to have kids and she wanted it at the end, so we were incompatible. Currently new LTR as I don't enjoy spinning plates, and the topic of kids came out. She says she always wanted kids and family, I told her I don't. It is kinda related to my childhood and lack of family values, but nowadays whats the point of having a kid? I view it as egoistic in a sense, many people have kids but they forget it's another concious being put in the blue pilled system in which it will mostly suffer if not guided correctly. Am I overthinking it and riding against the biology here or maybe there is some truth to it and kids aren't that bad? Even then I think you should have almost ideal socioeconomic situation for this, and currently it is so hard to have a house etc. that's like selecting hard mode just for the pressure of it. What do you think?

Outside of the legal and economic related concerns, if you lack the confidence to believe you'll be a potentially good husband to a future wife and/or potentially good father to future children that's understandable. No one wants to be a burden, or be burdened, but if you're not actively working to gain an understanding of those responsibilities independent of the situation of such obligations, one can only conclude that you're either really stupid, really lazy, or a coward. Additionally, if you're in a relationship with a female incapable of discerning that wariness from you in casual conversation, then the only reasonable conclusions one can come to is that she's a delusional moron hobbled by her solipsism and other psychoses thus rendering her too stupid to be either a good prospective wife to any man, or good potential mother to her future children.

There are enough people and organizations in this world trying to convince people young and old alike to make ill-informed decisions. You don't need a lover, relatives, or anyone else being among those diabolical people seeking to lead you down the escalator to hell. Just because few females will shed themselves of their childhood dreams of being the bride at a wedding doesn't necessarily mean that after a lifetime of Marxist-Feminist indoctrination they'll be either good, loyal wives, or diligent mothers to their future children.

To put things into perspective for you in 1989, The late Steve Allen did an interview that I'm providing a link to a 6 minute clip of, in which he shares brief reflections on his life. Specifically, growing up during the American depression, his early adult years, marriage, and his inept parentage. He voices particular frustration about how society makes sure people are well trained to be economically productive, but when it came to being instructed on being good wives, husbands, parents, or to simply be a good person, there were no reference points provided for him to start with. Something the Marxists took keen notice of.

Being in your mid twenties, you've got plenty of time to learn what you need to know by growing your knowledge base and educating yourself. You're not obliged to take a wife, or become a father, but the last thing you need is to be pressured into leaping blindly into anything, let alone marriage. Use this time wisely, it won't last forever.

@LegendITM

First Post, sometime yesterday:

I need urgent help!

Good day everyone. I have been a silent reader in this space for quite sometime now and it has been really helpful.

I started being actively in game last year and it has been great. Just a minor challenge.

I am having a huge issue escalating to sex when girls come over. I have read the sidebar so the preliminaries before sex are not my issue.

Here is how i usually do it:

1. I make small talks with them to get them comfortable.

2. If they are not sitting closer to me, I invite them or I playfully collect their phone or something which forces them to leave where they are and come to where I am

3. After some minutes, I compliment something on their body: either their hair, dress or earring, anything while touching them lightly at the same time just to gauge receptiveness.

4. I start touching them on their laps while still talking. After sometime, I slip my hand into their shirt to grab their breasts while kissing the neck. I meet resistance.

5. I withdraw. After sometime, I try again, same thing. I keep trying but same thing keeps happening.

I don't know if its my approach that keeps getting in the way. It has happened to four girls so I know the problem is from me.

Second Post made three hours later:

I need your advice.

How do I improve my escalation game when I have a girl over at my house. My game is shitty and doesn't work for me.

Can you share tips or methods you use, i'll appreciate it.

Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.