I feel so dumb. She was the only one that cared about me. I threw her past in her face and basically treated her like a huge skank. This was digital anger. Now I’m blocked on two platforms but not on the last one. Should I apologize? I feel like such a piece of shit.
What's done is done. If you want your planned apology to have any sincerity, save it for the next time you two should meet face-to-face. Right now, it strikes me that you've got two obvious problems hobbling your development, that being both a lack of mental maturity and a lack of discipline made worse by your access to technologies which enable you to gain immediate communication and gratification. It might be time to consider weening yourself off of social media.
One thing I don’t get is preselection.
I thought it meant that girls liked guys who had OPTIONS, not guys who PURSUED other options.
For example: if a guy was trying to land a girl, finally had a date set, and then the day before the date he posted a picture/video at the club dancing with other girls, shouldn’t that mess up his chances with the first girl?
What if it was a selfie with another girl?
A. What does the girl think/feel when she sees that?
B. What is the point of posting that from the guy’s perspective? Does he think it will give him points, or does he just not care how it affects things even if he’s been trying for a while with the girl in question?
Don’t get me wrong, I understand that if he posted those videos WHILE she was playing hard to get it could help his chances. But once she agrees to a date, shouldn’t that hurt his chances?
Regardless of their status, females don't think like males do and never will. The sooner you come to understand this, the better. Pre-selection isn't about her liking any guy, but rather about the awareness that she has of competition for a guys time and attention such that it piques and maintains her interest. If a female you know sees images of another girl having fun with you, then she'll simply expect you to entertain her just as diligently should her turn come around. The worst thing that could happen for you wouldn't be the date flaking on you with that awareness, but rather her following-through on the date to ask who the other girl was, and why you sent them the photo.
Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
Read More@Ill_Will7 Thanks guys. Where is the link? I don’t see it.
At what point should you quit drinking entirely, and should it be forever?
Last night was my breaking point. I actually paced myself yet somehow still got too drunk. I don’t think I was nearly as drunk as a couple nights ago yet I broke down and cried to my mom and told her about personal problems and things I’ve never disclosed to her.
I also drunk texted my ex again.
At this point I don’t know what to do. Quitting alcohol wouldn’t be difficult, but do I quit to the point where I can’t have one drink at a family bbq?
I’m also going to go to therapy again. After therapy could I drink again?
I’m not 100% certain I’ll quit alcohol. The problem is that negative emotions get WAY worse for me with alcohol. I don’t get so drunk that I’m endangered, but mentally I’m fucked. The fact that I literally cried to my mom for 30 minutes last night makes me feel so embarrassed and like I have no control.
If anyone can give advice on whether I should fully quit alcohol + advice on how to feel after my behavior last night, I’d really appreciate it.
I've no experience with your drinking to say if it's serious or not. That's for you to figure out. However, I'd like to take this opportunity to make you aware that @Ill_Will7's a recovering alcoholic who regularly attends alcoholics anonymous meetings. While I'm not suggesting he be a sponsor of any sort, I mention him because I'm sure he could point out some basic information that the group provides to help those seeking to overcome the addiction, or simply regain greater self control can help you to some degree on this matter. Regardless of what choice you make, I wish you the best of luck in this endeavor.
Read MoreWell I largely abandoned any concern with “game” about a year ago after I was having success with women who liked me rather than worrying about saying the right stuff. I am naturally funny so I don’t need a smooth line, and if they don’t give me any opportunity to show how funny I am then they must not be attracted enough right off the bat for me to want them around anyway.
Reads like you're describing pick-up, more-so than game, but it's good you're observant that females may see you as easy on the eyes. However, guys who depend on humor alone tend to be wimps. The problem with being a wimp is that most females barely know what to do with the pu$$y they were born with and aren't particularly interested in having a second one in their life.
@Typo-MAGAshiv okay well see, that’s part of my problem! Back in the day I used to send screenshots of texts to people who were helping me with “game” and they’d scrutinize it. I swear to God the guy who I posted about in my original post would ALWAYS say something about my game was off if a bitch didn’t fuck me. When in reality either it was that she wasn’t interested enough or that I lived an hour away or that she had a boyfriend (hypothetically) and felt guilty, or any other 1,000 fucking reasons. So then I guess I do have game
@carnold03 Well I largely abandoned any concern with “game” about a year ago after I was having success with women who liked me rather than worrying about saying the right stuff. I am naturally funny so I don’t need a smooth line, and if they don’t give me any opportunity to show how funny I am then they must not be attracted enough right off the bat for me to want them around anyway.
Yeah you make a good point. Even the flaired users have different experiences. For example, if a flaired user lives in a big city yet the reader lives in the middle of nowhere it’s gonna take a different type of game.
Game works mainly on stupid people with damaged minds and broken spirits. Towns, cities, and suburbs, have more people than the rural countryside. People living in the country need to maintain good relations with their relatives and neighbors to survive, so they will be actively concerned regarding their reputation. Females from towns and cities, literally give few fu&%$ about reputation, because most guys are pathetically thirsty for pu$$y, and the corporate-government-complex doesn't want you to form a strong family, and raise healthy children.
@carnold03 Yeah you make a good point. Even the flaired users have different experiences. For example, if a flaired user lives in a big city yet the reader lives in the middle of nowhere it’s gonna take a different type of game.
