Best place to meet women in 2025?
I’m 28. I live in a city that has nothing to do.
Most of all of this time I used online dating. I currently don’t use online dating (I’d be open to it again but just don’t have new pictures right now).
Aside from that I’ve done club game. What I’ve noticed is that even dudes who talk about women all the time and act like they’re fucking left and right don’t actually talk to girls in the club very much.
Is there another place to meet women? I want to have a roster, which I’ve never had, but I would prefer to do all the meeting of women during the day as much as possible. Is this possible? Where should I go? I’m honestly wondering how dudes ever had a roster before online dating because none of these dudes ever talk to women in person.
P.S. Almost all of the club game I’ve done has been 1+ hours away. I’m fine with driving. Is the beach a good option? Is it frowned upon to approach women at the beach?
Edit: my thoughts are either the beach or maybe restaurants. However, I find restaurants to be extremely awkward for talking to girls. I can also join some kind of meetups.com thing if there are attractive girls in any, but from what I’ve seen many meetups groups feature unattractive women and men.
Study the book and make plans to move to a more lively city.
Failing that, supermarkets, grocery stores, libraries, museums, music classes, continuing education classes, aerobics and cardio exercise classes, swimming pools, doctors offices, restaurants, cafes, cafeterias, bowling alleys, meetup groups, and the list goes on. The only thing limiting you is your own imagination and drive to interact with women. The thinking shouldn't be finding the best places to meet women, but rather finding places that offer the best odds you'll come across women you can at the least, converse with. Afterwards, it will come down to two things. Whether you have the confidence in yourself to engage them in those moments with the wit to calmly handle their disinterest and rejection. Secondly, whether you're also keeping an eye out for comfortable places to potentially take them for your dates other than your home.
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How do I stop being insecure about something my ex said?
I asked her about her sexual history once and she basically said that the first time she had sex she thought all men just wanted sex and she wanted to know what it felt like so she fucked a guy with a really nice physique.
A while later I asked her if he was as muscular as a picture of some random guy and I think she exaggerated because it’s extremely unlikely, but at the same time I’m bothered because during the first conversation she said “I thought I might as well have sex with this really hot guy instead of this short guy who had been trying for years.”
I was trying to be confident and not let it get to me but now I’m bothered because that guy had hurt her even just two months before this conversation, and she was telling me how hot he was. It bothers me because I wonder if she would’ve ever called me “really hot”, especially after if I had hurt her.
My attempt at an answer to this question is that she may have been exaggerating how hot he was to make me mad, since I had hurt her by saying I didn’t want a relationship. By the time we had this conversation she was thinking there was a chance for one. I just feel traumatized hearing about that. I didn’t ask her to tell me about that. I would’ve never told her I thought another girl was so hot if I had had sex with her. I don’t think she was really gushing over the guy when explaining the story; it was more about the word choice than how she was saying it. One part that bothers me though is that she said she didn’t even care if it was a one night stand. Except when he tried to fuck her on the first night she left and didn’t fuck him until the second night. I feel like she may have been exaggerating but I’m not sure why she would say this stuff. It seems cunty and I don’t know how to feel better.
I think my issue with this is not that he may have been hotter than me (although that is unfortunate), but the fact that she would describe him like that out loud. What a privilege this guy has to be able to use a girl multiple times and make her cry multiple times and she still describes him that way. That’s what bothers me. It wouldn’t even be as bad if he treated her right and she said that.
Reads like you've got a bad case of one-itis, which suggests something weird as you've only known this girl for a few weeks.
Read MoreI feel so dumb. She was the only one that cared about me. I threw her past in her face and basically treated her like a huge skank. This was digital anger. Now I’m blocked on two platforms but not on the last one. Should I apologize? I feel like such a piece of shit.
What's done is done. If you want your planned apology to have any sincerity, save it for the next time you two should meet face-to-face. Right now, it strikes me that you've got two obvious problems hobbling your development, that being both a lack of mental maturity and a lack of discipline made worse by your access to technologies which enable you to gain immediate communication and gratification. It might be time to consider weening yourself off of social media.
One thing I don’t get is preselection.
I thought it meant that girls liked guys who had OPTIONS, not guys who PURSUED other options.
For example: if a guy was trying to land a girl, finally had a date set, and then the day before the date he posted a picture/video at the club dancing with other girls, shouldn’t that mess up his chances with the first girl?
What if it was a selfie with another girl?
A. What does the girl think/feel when she sees that?
B. What is the point of posting that from the guy’s perspective? Does he think it will give him points, or does he just not care how it affects things even if he’s been trying for a while with the girl in question?
Don’t get me wrong, I understand that if he posted those videos WHILE she was playing hard to get it could help his chances. But once she agrees to a date, shouldn’t that hurt his chances?
Regardless of their status, females don't think like males do and never will. The sooner you come to understand this, the better. Pre-selection isn't about her liking any guy, but rather about the awareness that she has of competition for a guys time and attention such that it piques and maintains her interest. If a female you know sees images of another girl having fun with you, then she'll simply expect you to entertain her just as diligently should her turn come around. The worst thing that could happen for you wouldn't be the date flaking on you with that awareness, but rather her following-through on the date to ask who the other girl was, and why you sent them the photo.
Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
Read More@Ill_Will7 Thanks guys. Where is the link? I don’t see it.
At what point should you quit drinking entirely, and should it be forever?
Last night was my breaking point. I actually paced myself yet somehow still got too drunk. I don’t think I was nearly as drunk as a couple nights ago yet I broke down and cried to my mom and told her about personal problems and things I’ve never disclosed to her.
I also drunk texted my ex again.
At this point I don’t know what to do. Quitting alcohol wouldn’t be difficult, but do I quit to the point where I can’t have one drink at a family bbq?
I’m also going to go to therapy again. After therapy could I drink again?
I’m not 100% certain I’ll quit alcohol. The problem is that negative emotions get WAY worse for me with alcohol. I don’t get so drunk that I’m endangered, but mentally I’m fucked. The fact that I literally cried to my mom for 30 minutes last night makes me feel so embarrassed and like I have no control.
If anyone can give advice on whether I should fully quit alcohol + advice on how to feel after my behavior last night, I’d really appreciate it.
I've no experience with your drinking to say if it's serious or not. That's for you to figure out. However, I'd like to take this opportunity to make you aware that @Ill_Will7's a recovering alcoholic who regularly attends alcoholics anonymous meetings. While I'm not suggesting he be a sponsor of any sort, I mention him because I'm sure he could point out some basic information that the group provides to help those seeking to overcome the addiction, or simply regain greater self control can help you to some degree on this matter. Regardless of what choice you make, I wish you the best of luck in this endeavor.
Read MoreWell I largely abandoned any concern with “game” about a year ago after I was having success with women who liked me rather than worrying about saying the right stuff. I am naturally funny so I don’t need a smooth line, and if they don’t give me any opportunity to show how funny I am then they must not be attracted enough right off the bat for me to want them around anyway.
Reads like you're describing pick-up, more-so than game, but it's good you're observant that females may see you as easy on the eyes. However, guys who depend on humor alone tend to be wimps. The problem with being a wimp is that most females barely know what to do with the pu$$y they were born with and aren't particularly interested in having a second one in their life.
@Typo-MAGAshiv okay well see, that’s part of my problem! Back in the day I used to send screenshots of texts to people who were helping me with “game” and they’d scrutinize it. I swear to God the guy who I posted about in my original post would ALWAYS say something about my game was off if a bitch didn’t fuck me. When in reality either it was that she wasn’t interested enough or that I lived an hour away or that she had a boyfriend (hypothetically) and felt guilty, or any other 1,000 fucking reasons. So then I guess I do have game
