What's your opion on Orion Taraban's book 'The Value of Others'?
I recently read Orion's book and highlighted dozens of passages. Rarely have I encountered so much brilliance and realism in a single book. What was your impression?
Unfortunately, his predictions for the future are not optimistic. Women will continue to fuck the top 20 percent of men and refuse to settle for less. The rest will remain single and have to fend for themselves. What is your impression?
Long story short: In my 20s, I spent a few years fucking anyone I could: fatties, unstable girls, unattractive girls, attractive girls. Naturally, I tried to keep the attractive ones for relationships and dumped the fatties.
Now, years later, my long-term relationship is going terribly. She treats me like horse shit, no respect whatsoever. At the moment, I can't leave due to shared finances, but I'm working on a secret emergency fund so that I can leave in the future.
Meanwhile, I'm talking to some people again, and I've even been approached by old flings. What a surprise, only fatties. They want to fuck but I haven't done much so far. At work, there are a few attractive women I talk to a lot (mistake number 1), but nothing sexual happens.
It feels like I need to boost my confidence again by fucking women, but it doesn't feel confidence-boosting if I only fuck fatties. What would you do? Fuck them to get back in the game and then upgrade to more attractive ones?
You don't need anyone's permission to make decisions, let alone no name nobodies like us, but unless it's part of a larger plan to bring girls back home to smash on the regular until your emotionally distant girlfriend either packs up her stuff and leaves, or treats you better, I don't really see how this helps you any. Particularly, given what previous posts suggest you've been otherwise working towards in the long term.
You and your girlfriend have come to realize you're no longer a good match for each other. Be thankful you've made this discovery without being in a love-less marriage with children for several years. It allows you to learn from this experience and move forward with significantly less baggage.
To help you move forward, I suggest that you consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
You should definitely keep talking to people and getting yourself out of the emotional pit you're in though. Whatever has been going on between you and your live in girlfriend, divesting from the relationship on your part, and instead focusing that energy into renewed socializing is clearly developing to being a good thing for you, so don't stop. Best of luck to you going forward.
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